Okay so pretty sure I already know the answer to this but.. There's a senior who likes me (he's 18, I'm 14 and a freshman). As great as he is, and as much as I would love to date him, the age gap scares me. If he was younger, I would totally date him. But he's 18 soooo... I haven't talked to my mom yet, but I'm pretty sure she'd freak out about it and yaa.. I just wanted others' opinions on age gaps and stuff. He says that's not a big age gap, there are people with much bigger gaps but I think a 14 year old dating an 18 year old is just plain wrong. He's not the really sexual kind of guy, and even if he was I would dump him in a heart beat if he ever tried anything. He has a lot of respect for me, and he's a good guy. What do you guys think?
- Totally weird and not right.. Don't date him58% (23)47% (14)53% (37)Vote
- If it's okay with your parents and if you feel comfortable, sure35% (14)20% (6)29% (20)Vote
- No that's not weird, the age gap really isn't that big and doesn't matter so go for it7% (3)33% (10)18% (13)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
Not weird at all. Its 4 years. Its illegal for sex yes. I know in high school it's an eternity. You are really not that far spart but if you known him forever and grew up together I'd see nothing wrong with it. If you are the small few that actually last through high school and college. You'll look back and say how dumb was I to ask this. Of he's a senior and wants to date you through the summer and after I'd say he really likes you. Most kids are like screw those younger kids we are adults now lol. And he's probably getting a job or going to college so maybe he sees a furture with you I don't know. If it's ok with your parents what the hell go with it. If it where a 31 year old thats a different story1
Most Helpful Girl
I would date him, but in a normal mindset I don't think you should. There are a lot of risks with him being more physically developed (maybe stronger?), and he's around that age where guys do think about sex a lot.
It won't be weird in a few years when you're an adult, because by then such an age gap doesn't matter at all. I chose the third option of this poll. If you want to date him, go for it, but be safe. You can date him while you're both still in high school, but once he graduates then it will become weird.
I'd seriously be a hypocrite if I told you not to date him, because I'm dating someone far older than that.1