I just never understood this. When men clearly deep into their 40's try talk to me I shut them down completely and immediately because I just assume all they want from me is sex definitely not intellectual conversation that's for sure. But if not "just sex" what other reasons are there that they do that?
The first reason most men talk to women is sex, whether they are 40 or also your age.
Some of them are also open to and interested in more. I'd guess that older guys are more likely to view younger women as 'just for something casual'. On the other hand, older guys are more likely to be looking for something serious than guys your age, so in the end, it might be a wash.
Men tend to like women who are attractive, sweet and charming. Those aren't really things that older women have over younger women. Men don't really care much about experience and so on when it comes to attraction. Personally I'd rather, from a companionship standpoint, a smart young woman then a woman who happens to be my age but i don't get along with as well.
I'd also say that generally men, more than women, seem happy to become emotionally attached to women who they feel protective of, and are happy feeling like the stronger/wiser one in a relationship.
I'll approach and talk to anyone, just because they look interesting, or look like they could use hope/help... often that is intellectual, helping them through something, etc.., but if things gel, then that's good too. Sometimes I'm just friendly, thoughtful, etc... Women think most everything is about sex, so that isn't fair, you are more sexual than men:) As well, we don't know your age... ok 21 is young, but in 20's it starts to equal out, makeup and such, can't tell.
It is a bit odd I realize as I/we tune out our age. I look a lot younger than my physical age so I haven't gotten a bad response. I think a lot of it is in how the man carrys himself, what he says and how he prsents himself.
Maybe you remind him of himself and could be your father! Maybe he is feeling generous and just wants to buy u an ice cream or maybe he is just friendly and doesn't believe the youth of today are all stuck up ignorant wannabees and you will actually talk to him. Or, just maybe, he does just want sex... for every 10 of you he may get lucky with one of them hehe.
Younger women are more beautiful and attractive than the majority of older women. Older women get out of shape, wrinkle, and stuck in their ways that can drive a man away. Maybe it make an older man feel good about having a young beautiful woman. The only thing I don't understand why a man want to have a relationship with a woman so young when she have to live her life as a young woman and he already lived through that moment some decades ago so that can be a problem he will have with her. Older men should not talk to younger women to let them grow because he would sound more like a father than a boyfriend when it comes to some things.
Youth is a desired trait when it comes to females. In a primitive perspective, youth for women represents being more fertile. Youth is a sign of life and vitality and many more years to come. He has all the incentive to want/desire a young women