As you've all probably figured out, a lot of my questions are inspired either by my own neurotic thoughts or by the people I interact with in my daily life. For this question, I was inspired by a friendly acquiescence who we'll call... CC. Basically, CC is a chronic dater: she dates a guy, breaks up in a month, is dating a new guy. That's just CC's life, all the power to her. However, CC has claimed recently (whilst in a relationship) that she has been in love with more than 3 men AT A TIME.
Needless to say, I was baffled. But then I asked myself this question: if it's possible for us to love multiple people in our lifetimes, is it so far fetched to assume you can love more than one person at once?
What do you G@Gers think? Do you believe that if you're in love with somebody you're only able to love that person? Or do you believe it's very possible to be in love with multiple people at a time, even if you're in a committed relationship?
Hmm i would say there is an odd correlation between love and desire but they are not always exclusive. Let's be honest though some people can't tell the difference between peanut butter and almond butter. I would say that it is very hard to have a deep emotional connection type of love with 3 people at once and not feel guilty about it. But so many of my friends have always said that they can't decide, perhaps its always too early for them to do so for a relationship to even work... if that makes sense
I have never experienced it, and I could never do so. However, that doesn't mean that it couldn't happen to others. I do confess that when I hear, "I'm in love with two people," my first inclination is to think, "You mean you're in lust with two people." Of course I could be wrong.
Personally I would say no it isn't possible and that people who claim to be are possibly mistaking attraction for love which clearly is not the same thing. From my experience I have found being in love to be a very intense feeling and something I could not possibly feel with more than one person at a time. However, we are all different and perhaps for some people it is possible, i'm willing to keep an open mind about this.
I think it's possible to love more than one person at once, but in different ways. So I don't think you can love more than one person in that "you're the perfect person for me, I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with you" type of way. There's a quote that says "if you ever find yourself in love with two people, choose the second one because if you truly loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second" and I back that because I've learned the truth behind it from my own personal experience. Once you start falling for someone else something changes, and it's virtually impossible to keep an even balance between the two or three, so even if she was to love all of them, I'd put money on the fact that she cares about one more than the others, and in that case, what's the point of the other ones?
Being in love with multiple people is a very real thing, that's called Polyamory. It means being in love with or romantically involved with more than one person at a time. A Polyamorous relationship is with the consent of all partners involved though.
Unfortunately, yes. Loyalty has nothing to do with it. It just happens. According to researches I've done about this particular topic, it's completely possible. Sadly, I think it happens more often than not. However, if it ever happened to me while I was in a relationship with someone, 'd probably break up and try to deal with it on my own.
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