I've had a long time coworker, friend and neighbor for about 3 years now, always messaging me. Recently my boyfriend moved out and my friend took me to dinner and tried to get with me after... he talked about how perfect he thinks I am, and about children and marriage, about me moving in with him etc... He even wants to take me on a trip this weekend. Not sure if he is just saying things to try and sleep with me? Or if he is serious? How do I find out?
you may not know until it unfolds, or just state your boundaries/rules up front as part of a yea... that sounds great, just understand I'm a high quality girl, I like to get to know someone really well, etc.. etc..
I wouldn't turn someone down because of an asumption.
He could be obsessed with you, and is voicing this now because boyfriend's out of the picture, or at least out of where you are currently living. He could possibly be serious but overall this all just comes off creepy to me. The constant messaging, the children, the marriage. He definitely isn't JUST trying to bed you.
Any man interested in any woman, he wants to get in her pants. however, that is not necessarily all he wants. why do women want to keep on with this "is he after sex?" the answer is always yes. that doesn't mean he isn't a really sincere and nice guy that wants you long term.
Hey, regardless, thats the end game anyway. so you can either just do it and get it out of the way or go Sherlock Holmes on him, which will take much longer. the choice is yours. Worrying/thinking about it usually never helps...
Well he is moving really fast which points to the direction of him trying to get into your pants but if you guys are close it could mean that he's been emotionally invested in you for a lot longer than you were aware. It's possible that he's practically in love with you.
Well he knows how to sweet talk you. If he talked about marriage and children then, he should propose instead of trying to get into your pants. If he is serious then should say to him "if you love me wait for sex until marriage." You are to keep your standards high, don't lower your standards. Be true to yourself, if he cares and cherishes your heart then he will marry you.