I've had this huge crush on my (now) boyfriend. He's never ever had a girlfriend nor really talked to girls cause he's shy when it comes to that. We didn't start talking till we both started attending the same university near our hometown last May. Once summer came we had a "thing" going on and we would hang out here and there. But he was still very inconsistent with me, but I thought it was just because he never talked to girls. We would hangout one day and then go 3 days without talking and then he would initiate a conversation with me. That's how it was pretty much all summer Then I started having the feeling that he was talking to some other girl as well because I saw him messaging a girl one time we were hanging out last summer.. . Well, Once school started and everyone went back to school. That's when everything fell into place with us. I recently went through his messages from last summer and it turns out he was hanging out with two other girls and me! These two girls are very very pretty and cool, (I knew them from high school) and it hurt me because he hung out with them and said tell them he wanted to hangout and that they were pretty... but he was being very inconsistent with me.
I have mentioned it to him before and he said "well I've never gotten a girls attention before, and I was just laying out my options, and the only reason why I spent more time with (INSERT NAME HERE) because I only had two months to hangout with her before she left for school again"
And I feel like the only reason why it didn't work with the other girls was because they go to different schools about 5 hours away. Since we live in the same city, I feel like he kinda just settled for me. Although, I do think we have a happy relationship. Probably one of my best relationships. But now I'm dwelling on what he ultimately wanted last summer because I kinda feel like he shifted me to the side
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You can either let those thoughts ruin your relationship and break-up based solely on the "what if" thought, or you can focus on the happy relationship you have and accept that he is with you because he wants to be.1