I'm just wondering if it's okay for me to feel insecure about this, girls I know have told me that it's fine and that its a guy friend thing and that I'm being controlling, i have always tried not to be controlling, I've been okay with her hanging out at guy friends house which was hard enough because I get worried, but am I overreacting here?
Is it okay for a girl I've been dating to sleepover at her guy friends house?
What Girls Said 10
No your not overreacting. I think it's actually good that your being overprotective in this situation because who would want their girlfriend to sleepover at a guys house? If she thinks your being over dramatic, your not. It's your job to feel this way lol.0
Not okay with me.0
No, I think it's reasonable to be uncomfortable with it. Is there a reason she has to sleep over?0
Just the two of them? I wouldn't be cool with it, so no.0
I wouldn't be okay with it if I was you. I'd suggest talking to her about it in a somewhat casual way. Let her know it bothers you, and that even though your trust her, it makes you uncomfortable and uneasy.0
No, I'd be upset if I had a boyfriend and he was sleeping over at his female friend's house. That's not acceptable to me.0
This is a very tough one. I would not be comfortable. I'd let it happen once. That's my final answer after all the thinking and I've been thinking about this question for 20 minutes. The best answer I can give is I'll let it happen once0
Uh, no. Lol. I wouldn't let my boyfriend sleepover at a girl's house. Forget that. No thank you.0
If you trust that your girlfriend won't go around sleeping with another guy, sure.
but it's okay to be a little protective of your girlfriend, everyone is scared to lose someone dear to them.
If the girl really understand how you feel on the other side, she won't do the things that will make you insecure.
Try talking to her about this topic, just act casual, it'll be fine.0
What Guys Said 8
WTF? NO it isn't ok! You ARE being controlling-you are controlling this other guy's dick from entering your girlfriend!
Anyway, the friends that are saying it is ok are a bunch of idiots! This is crossing the line! It is ok for them because they are single and view this situation differently. Nothing wrong with spending time with a male friend, (still don't like it), but sleeping over is where I draw the line! I would put my foot down. If she refuses then she is picking her friend over her you. This means he means more to her than you do and therefore she is a piece of shit just wasting your time.2
Only you and she know where your relationship boundaries are, but generally speaking, if she really cared that much about your relationship she wouldn't put you in a situation where you have no good options:
(1) You let her cheat. And she is going to cheat, whether this time (probably) or in the future, now that the precedent that it's okay to "sleepover" at other guys' places without you has been established.
(2) You tell her "absolutely not" and play the jealous, controlling asshole boyfriend, which in the modern relationship environment is considered by some to be domestic abuse.
(3) You dump her, meaning you're out any benefits from the relationship, and you get the reputation of (2) heaped on you as well.
My personal experience is that staying in a relationship with a girl who doesn't respect relationship boundaries and plays stupid jealousy games with you can have serious consequences for your self-esteem and perception of women, but there's also no guarantee you will ever find a girl who will respect those boundaries.0
your reaction is not controlling. you have a right to your feeling that way.
I did the same to my girlfriend early on and it hurt her and I learned not to do that. It was a friend and nothing going on... I played iwth the kids I bonded with, but it isn't ok.0
Haha, no, what the fuck is this shit?1
I wouldn't be comfortable with it. If I can't do it neither can they, I deleted all the others girls numbers I had and she dumped me in the end anyway it was a waste of time0
No it's not OK... I wouldn't like that at all0
No way Jose !0
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