I'm 21; he's 27. We met about a month ago on social media. He texted me everyday. We met 2 Sunday's ago, he introduced me to all his friends, we got along well. The next weekend he invited me to his band's show, and I went back to his place after. We stayed up all night til 8am, talking, sharing music, making out, no sex. We met up again the following night for a few hours and did the same. We were always kissing each other, it felt just so right. We kept talking. I assumed he wasn't talking to anyone else since I spent the night in his clothes and partially naked in his bed, and he messages me all day every day. But, I caught him messaging a girl online... And I called him out on it. I was like "joke is on me" (this was through texting since I live an hour away during the week) and I said I didn't want to be used and thought we were not talking to others. He felt I attacked him and he said he feels really weird about all this and we shouldn't see each other for now. I don't feel like this is fair... I overreacted, I apologized... I want him to give me another chance. He said "let's give it a couple days" and it's been one day since.
Is there any chance we can work through this? How do I move from here?
Most Helpful Guy
There's a chance, but you're acting like a hurt puppy. If you're not exclusively in a relationship, then you're not exclusively in a relationship. Unless it's agreed you can't see other people, then that's not the case. You think you're the only girl that's interested in him for his looks, musicianship, and anything else he brings to the table? You think you would treat me or any other guy differently if the show were on the other foot? Right now he's into you. There's nothing more there, yet.0
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Most Helpful Girl
This happened to me once. There's a chance you two can work through this, but HE has to be willing to work on things with you. I think what happened is you fell for him pretty hard, it's obvious you really like this guy which is fine, but you have to also understand that you two just met, you don't know each other well enough. I made this mistake before. Listen to him when he says give it a couple of days. You have apologized and done all that you can at this point. If he really likes you and want to continue things with you, then let him be the one to initiate it. So, sit back and relax for now. Focus on yourself, distract yourself from him. Meet someone else. He's the first of many, you will meet plenty of more men. Also, try not to meet so many guys on social media. Men who are active on social media have hundreds of women they talk to on a daily basis.1
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