So me and this guy we're getting close, we are long distance, we first met back in 2014, and it developed from their, a couple of months back, he said he wanted a serious relationship with me, and I said I did with him too, he replied good, I never heard anything after that, the weeks went by I didn't message him, cause was angry he disappeared, the other day I had had enough, and message him saying how are you? You say your serious then disappear? He replied I am ok thanks u, I sent a further message too him, do you want me or not, he replied saying, not really...
Does he really not want me or was he lashing out what would you do, would you reply back, I need some advice please
I didn't respond and got a further 2 messages from 1 saying, I just don't think it would work you so far away, and then another one later saying what do you think? If he didn't care would he have sent the further 2 messages?
I later responded with- you hurt me saying not really if your feelings are real for me it doesn't matter how far I am, people make it work if you want something you fight for it but if you can't do that and you don't want me i am walking away i can't be your friend and I won't message you again then messaged him this
He didn't contact you either and now he is angry? This guy is playing immature games and I would not want him anymore. The whole situation is really strange. I guess maybe since he asked you to be serious, he put himself out there and maybe wanted you to initiate contact after that and maybe he wasn't sure if you really did? So he didn't contact you to make sure? And then you didn't he thought you really didn't want anything serious. I have to question how the relationship was going before this, because if there was a good momentum and a good connection the transition should have been very easy into exclusivity. Most people just kind of fall into that because you are hanging out all the time and getting along, it just kind of naturally goes that way. So why was there this rift? Maybe it wasn't meant to be. I would personally not want a long distance relationship especially for this long. Yeah, after all this time I would delve deeper into what is going on with him though. And if he wants to break up, you can find someone closer to home you can actually see and spend time with.
When a man tells you what he wants and doesn't want, listen to him. I've learned my lesson too many times with something similar to this. Also, you shouldn't even want to deal with him anymore. He is obviously very rude and careless. He vanishes and he lied to you. He's a coward and a liar. You don't need a man like that in your life. xoxoxoxoxoxo