I met this guy a few weeks ago. I live out of town for school but will be returning to live closer to him in a week. After our first date, we saw each other again a week later (on the weekend when I could come home) and I ended up sleeping at his place (no sex mind you) and the next day we saw each other at his place and cuddled and made out again.
My guy friend is telling me I'm too easy, especially since I am attractive he should be "moving mountains" for me. He said I'm not making this guy work and I should not let him touch me and I shouldn't go to his place at all, and I need to be really "catch me if you can" mentality. I don't know... I don't want to play games but I also don't want to appear as too easy. I really do like this guy, and he does appear genuine. He hasn't pressured sex and he says he's not looking for just sex. He wants a relationship, companionship.
Most Helpful Guy
you did great to hold boundaries of no sex with him, that is what is important and you got brownie points. Definetly don't give yourself away easy, slower you go the better the bonding...
maybe when you live closer you don't sleep over... but just try to have a normal relationship with him and let it grow... like have fun together, get to know each other and how you think, likes dislikes, upbringing, etc.. since you are both looking for LTR. live true to your values, whatever those are. good luck!
but don't play games like you said with time and availability. At this point, if you are exclusive and dating, then make yourself available. If you are not dating, then being totally available at beck and call can look needy, you dont' want to be needy at that stage or in general, but you want to be available for them.
Most Helpful Girl
Your guy friend is either an idiot or trying to sabotage this for you. Games are for children and if you've found a guy who doesn't play games with you, don't play games with him! Be glad you don't have to deal with that bullshit!
One of the reasons I fell so quickly and easily for my boyfriend is because the whole thing was "easy" right from the start. No lying, no games, no bullshit... we were both just honest about what we wanted and where we were at. It was wonderful (and still is)!1