It's at the point how where I'm done trying to find another girl in my life. I'm more focused on my job and college, to the point where I give up looking for my SO.
Does anybody else feel this way? Is it normal?
Most Helpful Girl
I feel the same way. I have friends who feel the same way. It's a sad company to keep, but there seem to be quite a few of us --> so I would say, yes, pretty normal. Good idea to focus on your job & college, I can tell you that I certainly wasted far too much of my time at university pining away over some guy whose name I can barely remember now. On the other hand, the information/extra skills I could have learned in that time would come in pretty handy now.
So avoid my mistake & really use your time at college & your job to learn all that you can.
Here's to hoping that one day, we will feel a bit more hopeful about finding love again!1
Most Helpful Guy
You're better off focusing on you job and education anyway. Without a steady income you can't possibly provide and sustain a relationship anyway at least not for the long term. It never comes free, it's not only financially draining but emotionally as well, especially when a relationship falls apart as they are never guaranteed to last in the first place.
To top that off, things would get very fucking expensive when you add in all the other things you must spend money on to support yourself from rent, bills, auto insurance payments or payments for your car if you have one, but more importantly your student loan payments as you will eventually have to pay those back.
And if you were to start your own family and get married, then you will have to pay for the wedding, wedding ring, engagement ring, inviting guests, possibly mortgage to buy a house and as well as costs of supporting your children. It's not an easy task since it's completely life-changing. Don't think it's all that great it could potentially be just as miserable.
Focus on saving your money as much as possible, especially for retirement. I bring this up in particular because would you want to run the risk of being completely broke and homeless by the time you are in your retirement age or near retirement age? Because you'll be in your late 50s and 60s and it won't be easy to find a another job at that point to keep working. How would you make it then? Better to be safe than sorry, realistically anyway.
If your job offers a 401k retirement plan benefit, take advantage of it and put as much in that you can afford to put in. I heard social security benefits are going to run out before many of the younger generations such as millenials reach their retirement age so I say good luck to those that don't realize this until it is too late. It's an even bigger risk to start a family and bring another generation of people into this world when it's more than likely they'll be fucked completely financially eventually.
But if you really really absolutely really want to be someone's dad then go ahead it's really up to you. Then if that's the case you should never ever give up on being active to establish a long term relationship with a girl. Don't want kids? Then don't focus or prioritize it right now.0