I was dumb enough to have a friend with benefits and then develop feelings for him. I told him that i want to be more serious but he always avoid the topic. He gets jealous when i am around other guys but still doesn't want to be serious with me.
Yesterday after sex, i told him that if he doesn't want to commit with me, I will dump him and look for someone that does! and he told me that "no guy will want me for more than sex"
that is his way of controlling you and it is sick and childish. He gave you his answer didn't he and you should stick to yours. Block him and move on. He isn't worth your time... be thankful you are getting away from him and fine someone who deserves you. Take time to heal from this, talk to a counselor to help you establish some healthy parameters around relationships and undo the lie he told you, get yourself feeling emotionally healthy. then go out to look for someone. It is worth a little bit of your time to re-boost your self esteem and you hvae plenty of time left to do so.
He is just being a Meanie now to get your own Goat, and to fix his Tail... Cut him off for awhile and let him Wail. He is trying to Get you where it Hurts, In your own Heart. He is never going to change, He will always be in it for the Fun, and Knows that with being Territorial, Which he is, You will probably not find another Someone. I am not seeing this Relationship of No Benefits to You, Going anywhere Except down the Tube with Jiffy Lube. It's your Choice how you want your own Life of Strife to go. You know what You are looking for and so does He. Good luck. xx
1. First things first the whole idea of friends with benefits is not to have feelings apart from being friends and having sex - you break that rule the whole thing goes for a toss 2. It tantamounts breaking the trust of the other person 3. You sure hurt his ego with your statement and he retaliated instinctively aka securing his hurt ego 4. You made a mistake and he made one - either both of you live with it or dump it :)
Not his fault you changed the deal. A friends with benefits is all about fucking without emotion and you failed. Being jealous around other guys isn't a sign he likes you more than a booty call it means he doesn't want other guys trying to take his pussy away. What he said was mean and uncalled for and of course he is still going to call and text you because you are his sex toy. He cares about his dick and your pussy not your feelings.
Lol. Well, clearly he wants you just for sex. You probably made it too easy for him and now with the threat of losing easy pussy, he has resorted to demeaning your self esteem so you believe him and continue to give him that ass. He really just wants sex and avoids the topic to avoid hurting you and losing sure pussy.
You knew what you were getting into, and you can't expect to change the situation. You are trying to change it to something more and he's trying to keep things the way they were, but the only way that can happen is of course if you stay and keep being a friends with benefits. In my mind, clearly this isn't the guy from you, friends with benefits, or not, because regardless of the situation, YOU should not allow a guy to put you down for no reason, and telling him you have feelings for him, is not a reason for him to react and say what he said. You're better than this and since you want and deserve more, move on quickly, even if its just another friends with benefits, find one that is at least decent enough to treat you like you are a real person with feelings.
Um... why are you still entertaining this guy? That's not friends with benefits, that's just giving up sex to a jerk. I mean, it ending or not ending is up to you but good gravy, I've had friends who slept with their friend with benefits and they weren't assholes. Who says that someone?
did you expect more from a friend with benefits? you are literally his booty call. He doesn't need a relationship with you he just needs sex if he wanted a relationship he wouldn't be a friend with benefits.
dump him. he's a scumbag, and you deserve better than that.
OMG what a douche bag. Maybe he feels as though because you wanted to leave him and made him feel unwanted so he made you feel unwanted. Guys are terrible people I swear hahah He wants you all to himself.
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