I'm 29 and never been on a date, weird?

how would girls feel about a 29 yo male who's never dated and never had a girlfriend? Would it creep girls out? I have no social life and I don't know anyone except coworkers. I just don't know how to connect with people or even where to meet girls either


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Most Helpful Girl


  • My advice would be to keep that fact to yourself until you know she likes you.

    For women, hearing that a man has never been in a relationship let alone a date will send up all kinds of red flags - rightly or wrongly. So this is a fact that is better served by keeping it to yourself.

    Once you are dating a girl and you know she likes you, then share it. At that point, she will be surprised but it will be a happy surprise. She will be the one that found the diamond in the rough. lol!

    As for figuring out how to connect with people and/or girls - I suggest doing online dating (edating) and/or join some groups to practice this. Meetup is a good website to find groups in your area and it is a good way to just start meeting strangers - male and female.

    Meeting people is a skill so it is something that can be learned. You are not born with this ability though some may naturally take to it more than others. It is still a skill. And since it is a skill, it is something that can be learned. And the best way to learn something is by practice.

    Good luck to ya'.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm actually 35 and the same, and I don't feel weird at all about it. If you believe, think or feel it is weird then maybe it is weird, otherwise ignore whether it is or is not weird.

    Join a club or something. Check for local groups at http://www.meetup.com or something.

    Or try dating apps.

    It won't be easy, but you will have to try and do something about it or things will always be the same day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, etc. for you.

    It's going to be intimidating at first, but you'll have to work towards becoming confident that you really don't give a shit or care what they think about you and come up with some clever and interesting things to say to them in public.

    Try any or all of the following place when looking for ladies to talk to:

    Bars, dance clubs/night clubs, libraries, shopping centers or malls, coffee shops, gyms, various events or conventions.

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What Girls Said 8

  • You need to get out of your shell to get social. Business networking events, find a social club that's built around an activity you enjoy. A ski club, hiking club, reading club, hacker events, whatever you enjoy doing there is a group. You could also get a favorite restaurant to go out to dinner alone and sit at the bar. make friends with the people on either side of you and the bartender in front of you.

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  • No, its not weird. In a way I'm in the same boat as you. I used to be quite popular at school. I didn't keep in contact with any of my friends from school. I got fed up of being used so I severed all ties. I have one best friend who I met at a previous work place. He is married with a child and has a job. So we can't spend as much time together as we would like to. I've been on dates though, none of them were on the same wavelength as me. So I've never had a boyfriend. I'm in no rush anyway.

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  • It is weird, yeah, but I don't think it's a huge turn off. Most girls my age where I live go to bars on the weekends or to each others houses. Try going to the mall or a night bar or to restaurant where females like to gab. The gym is a great place to meet people, too. Or a coffee shop or bookstore. I go to the bookstore all the time to write my novel and to browse books.

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    • Ok I could go to those places. Problem is I just don't know how to talk to girls. What is it that girls even like? I'm way behind guys my age

    • Girls like when you just talk to them lol. Just go up and say hey and just tell them you noticed them. They'll let you know if they're taken or interested or want to be left alone. Most girls are jerks about it.

  • I don't think it's weird. People are complicated. IF You want to start meet people, than try to go out with your coworkers for a drink or something. You know them, so You won't be alone in a pub or club. It'll be easy to go out than. ;)

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  • You need therapy

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    • Ok... therapy for what if you don't mind me asking

    • You go into the office of a board-certified psychiatrist or psychologist and tell him, "I've been alone in my life. I have trouble connecting to people. Something must be wrong. Can you help." Why do you want to diagnose yourself before you go in the therapy? Would you go into a doctor's office and say, "I think I have a tumor in my pancreas." You don't know what's wrong that's why therapy for you would be great because it would help you figure out your life.

  • Try dating sites but watch out for the wacos. Try going to the clubs and pubs

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  • That's weird. Someone your age should be married or dating at least. How sad.

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  • I'm 21 and I've never dated or had a boyfriend so ur not alone

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What Guys Said 10

  • You're essentially describing me. A couple of girls showed interest along the way to 29, but I didn't really didn't respond to it. At 36, I had my first relationship that lasted six years, and my current relationship has lasted five years. If a girl shows *any* level of interest, ask her if she wants to go to lunch. In your mind, it is essential that you think of it not as a date, but just to see what kind of *person* she is -- not what kind of *girl* she is. By the time you've finished lunch, you'll "just know" if she's right for you. If not, don't sweat it. If so, ask her out on a date. If you do this at least a few times, you'll get more comfortable with doing this, to the point where you're almost certain to meet someone. Also, all the times where you *don't* ask for a follow up date will just make you more comfortable with the process, so it is actually good to let a few go. Good luck.

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  • No, it would not creep many girls out, though some may be turned off by it. Go out on the town, just go to bars alone. Literally every weekend go to a bar alone. If you can't strike up a convo, that's okay, just sit there. Maybe someone will eventually talk to you, but if that doesn't happen, just keep going until you get the nerve to talk to people. Be advised, girls are naturally defensive in bars, even to good looking guys, so you may get shut down. No sweat, just keep getting on that horse.

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  • Find social clubs in your area, that are about anything you are interested in. Find friends on social media, check out local dating sites. If you don't make the effort you won't get anywhere.
    Get into google and research what goes on in your are, you may be surprised.

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  • Everyone has to begin somewhere.
    Do not tell her that she is your first date, or first anything else.

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  • Aside from having coworkers,(still no job...), I think I know just how you feel.

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  • Yes.

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  • That is a statistical anomaly so it does fit the definition of "odd".

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    • Okay, that's what I was expecting

  • maybe

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  • Something like this happens to guys more than girls it seems

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  • It's the same with me dude. What's your issue? For me it's my average height and over amount of body hairs.

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