Guy friend admitted his feelings for me over text and I told him "I felt the same". He also texted that he thinks we should probably have a conversation about our feelings. We hung out the day after which was a little awkward (1st time alone since he's been single/we've acted more flirty), and he was putting his head on my shoulder and other small things of physical contact, which is nice but I freak out with feelings, and I am worried he will want to move fast physically. I'm not a virgin but I've never done anything with anyone twice or sober so I feel inexperienced (he doesn't know any of that). Anyway he kept mentioning we should have the talk, but that we didn't have to or it didn't have to be right then since we were leaving but it was all up to me.
I'm putting it off bc I'm really bad with this stuff, I've never been in a relationship and I have a lot of anxiety about intimacy and being vulnerable so it is hard for me not to run from this. He just got out of a relationship 3 weeks ago that he barely mentioned to me ever (a couple if us think bc of his feelings for me) which also puts me on edge.
I really don't know what my exact question is, I just don't want to end up a rebound or ruin it with him if I'm not. I've never had this type of talk before so I don't know what to do or say. Most other questions asked about this have the opposite problem of the guy not opening up and the girl wanting to talk so any advice is appreciated.
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The guy sounds like a keeper. (Is it considered gay if I say that?)
Anyway just do it. I'm the same for both ends of this. On your half is definitely get it at least over with so you don't worry about if, but on the other he might be waiting and start feeling sad that you aren't talking about it. In other words just talk as its a win for everybody.1