My boyfriend wanted a break after an argument on Wednesday, the initial argument was Saturday night. Probably the worst we've ever had. He messaged me Friday about work because something came up (we work at the same place and management needed to get in contact with me and kept going to him) and we haven't talked since then. It's Sunday now. How long should a break be? Can I message him after a few days or should I wait for him? Not sure how this works.
Most Helpful Guy
I would definitely say ask him, obviously you don't want to leave it hanging but you don't want to jump on it. Its obvious that something either needs to be changed with you two or a break up may be required. What i would say however is that one of you is not at peace with this juncture, on of you is holding on while the other is simply hanging. That is not a cause to stop trying but its a wake up call to understand through each other that arguments however small or big should not effect the entire relationship. <3 boom.0
Most Helpful Girl
At first I thought a break was impossible, that it meant the end, but it doesn't. It's usually not with timespan you decided before the break. Things just happen and you take your time. I had a break once and it wasn't clear if it was over forever or if we were gonna be together again the next day. It eventually took over a month with us. But we are back together and we are actually happier than before. It really did us good. Things just happen in life (my boyfriend had a horrible year with his two best friends dying) and you need some time alone to tink sometimes.
One advise: don't see other guys too soon when you're not sure about how serious the break is. For a good looking girl (you seem like you get some attention as well) it often happens that all the guys are gonna try their luck with you and it can be tempting especially if there aren't any rules set. Often during a longer break , the girl has sex, while for the guy it's not that easy. So it can be a mess when you get back together. Just like you, my boyfriend and I worked at the same place (different floors luckily) and a coworker, who was hot but pretty much an asshole, hit on me and we had casual sex a couple times. He was such an ass that one time he texted my boyfriend and made him walk in on us fucking. Me and my boyfriend are fine now and talked about it but I think that will haunt him for a while. So try to stay away from other guys. Seriously, this is the biggest danger during a break. Other people. Even if it's something casual.0