I'm 21 and I never had a boyfriend. I don't know why but the idea of having a serious relationship scares me. It feels so serious, so final. Like I'll lose my freedom. Also, I'm not the type of person who lets other people in easily so opening up to someone is a big deal to me. I'm scared that if I let a guy in and actually fall for him, I'll lose control. I'll be vulnerable and if he decides that he doesn't like what he sees once he gets to know the real me he'll just leave me. I've never experienced real heartbreak or even rejection and it scares the hell out of me. But then almost all my friends have boyfriends and they all seem so happy while I'm still single. I feel weird sometimes. It's not like I can't attract guys, quite the opposite actually, but I'm too scared to give anyone a chance. As soon as things start getting serious I push him away and distance myself. I always find an excuse, like he lives too far away, he's not my type, he's boring etc. Or the guy gets tired of me being passive and gives up. Is there something wrong with me or is it normal to feel this way?
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No it's not unusual sometimes feel that way myself sometimes I just want to remain eligible in case something better comes along or just want to stay eligible and I don't want to get close to anybody either since break ups are so hard after what I have been through1
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