I’m a girl who has mostly male friends. I grew up with 4 brothers and I think I just get along better with men. Also, I randomly have flings with men who aren’t friends, just sex partners. I often get help from my male friends when I need help that requires manly strength and I also have conversations with them to get a male perspective.
I'm starting to think that I'm getting my emotional and sexual needs met through both the friendships and flings so I don't have to get too deep into any kind of commitment. I want to mention that I never sleep with my male friends because I'm not attracted to my friends in that way and I want to keep that boundary clear.
I wonder, does hanging out with these men ruin the possibility of finding someone I could have a real deep committed relationship with?
Most Helpful Guy
yeah, it might and here's way. You essentially have a patchwork of dudes as your "BF". It's fine while you're really young or once you get over like 50-ish.
Yeah, your guy friends are your emotional support now but that can't possibly last. Once they have families they can't exactly give you the same attention.
I mean, You're kinda using people here. Your sexual partners don't have a chance to connect with you emotionally and i suspect your emotional partners can't have a sexual connection.
Have you ever been in a committed relationship before?2
Most Helpful Girl
As a girl in a similar place, I can give some girl to girl perspective... I don't think it really can RUIN your chances- however it will make things difficult in finding a stable and steady relationship. Why? Because your next boyfriend is going to have to compete with the guy friends, and you will have to work on the trust factor. The other issues that will appear are probably going to be the double standard of slut shaming. You may know you don't have sex with these guy friends, but those around you will think otherwise. New men might be intimidated by the number of men in your life- whether they be family, friends, or sex partners it still makes the man feel intimidated. My advice is to maybe slow down with the sexual partners, or maybe just stop completely until you have a steady stable boyfriend who can respect the fact that you have male friends. But honestly in the end, you should do whatever YOU feel comfortable with doing. #YouMatterMost Good luck!!1