Ok I need help here.
I have the ex boyfriend Ross (we broke up a year ago might I add) who, has had a really hard time in life. Mum and dad died three years ago, brother is severely depressed/has mental health issues, his sister is pretty ill and his little nephew is severely disabled. So Ross, has a lot on his shoulders, as you can imagine.
So Ross had fell in love with me. And when he did? It was the wrong time. I had been struggling with things and was by no means ready for love. However, he loved me, he pursued me and he won me over in the end. What he'd been through scared me and I was terrified to hurt him.
However things ended badly. I continually pushed him away, I broke his heart with it and we split. On awful terms. Ever since our split I tried to patch things up and have failed miserably. He's completely cold towards me. Not to mention, he's now kissed another girl.
there's another guy though, Dylan. And he's my friends older brother. Very recently we switched numbers and he's been chatting away to me. And to be honest? Lightening up my day a little. His personality is similar to that of my ex strangely, but there's more of a warmth to him.
Dylan seems pretty keen and wants to meet and stuff. I have a bunch he might like me? But I can't help but feel torn between the ex Ross who I still deeply care for and worry about... and Dylan, who I know where I stand with.
I just don't want to make the wrong choice. Not sure if I should give my ex more time.
Please guys? Please help.
- Wait it out a little more.Vote A
- Move on with Dylan, think about your happiness.Vote B
- Keep trying with your ex, he's had it rough.Vote C
- Other.Vote D
Most Helpful Guy
It didn't sound like you cared about Ross, "I continually pushed him away, I broke his heart with it and we split".
"Ever since our split I tried to patch things up and have failed miserably. He's completely cold towards me." Why if you didn't really car and was pushing him away? Guy's that cared about the girl CAN NOT go to being just friends... they don't want to see there EX (Period).
Move on with the new guy, if you like him, just be honest with him and yourself. Life's too short to be to afraid to make a move, or wait for the other person to do it first. It's always best to find out how they feel ASAP... anything else is wasting both of your time.1
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Most Helpful Girl
You tried to patch things up with your ex and failed, and he has also kissed another girl. That bridge has been burned.
If you're not over your ex yet (which you don't seem to be) then it wouldn't be fair to this new guy to use him as some rebound. Wait until you're over everything before jumping into something new.1