have you felt insecure to the point that you ignored a love interest because of the way you felt about yourself? For example, has someone demonstrated that they like you, who you liked back, yet you didn't pursue it because your insecurity stopped you from believing they truly could like you or something?
Yeah, or just not asking them out because i have no clue how to go about doing it, or just not realizing that hey were saying something that meant for me to ask them out, becuse girls beat around the bush rather than speak what they want to say. I am very quiet person who is not great in conversation, and dont have a very exciting life to talk aboit or things to do. I feel like i always have to look at what other people want to do rather than making it up myself. Plus in my area it is very difficult for people like me who are not into pop culture to find somebody who is into he same stuff, or just into anything cool.
of course, in the past mainly and most of the time. It took very aggressive girls to get past my protective shield. We all have protective shields around our "selves".
I was so wounded most of my life, and didn't know it, that a girl who said I was cute or handsome... when that hit my brain, I would go..."there is something wrong with her". That was my old wounds controlling me from childhood.
Takes time and effort to heal those wounds, education, perspective, then the damage is lessened if not gone.
yah sure ! I went out of a long love relationship, heart broken... literally destroyed, I used to be the cool strong guy but after that I lost everything starting from work and money till my friends and some family members, I was close to suicide, spent 4 months alone at home drinking till I sleep, then my friends decided to forgive me after they saw my situation and helped me to get back on my feet and go back to my life style again but still untill now I'm afraid of getting in a new relationship or even in one night stand, I tried everything, my friends tried their best to find me a new girlfriend but I just can't, it's like sometimes I'm sitting on the same table with my friends and six or seven girls and I'm the only silent one, even if they approach me I don't react back... I'm the shadow of the person I was proud to be before three years !
yes, every time a woman gives me a compliment i automatically assume they are not being genuine. all this 'you are such a great guy', 'i could totally date you'. i dont believe any of this, it all fake in my opinion, not just this but also other compliments.
Yeah, that has happened. I'm not exactly confident in my physical appearance. So I've let some opportunities slip away. And who knows, one of the girls that I let slip away could've really been the one. Nobody's fault but mine I guess...
no my first thoughts are will we be good together will it actually workout do i really want to be with her and will i be any good for her not in a insecure way but more of a concerned for her well being kinda way
I think I'm so insecure, I might not have noticed opportunities I may have had in the past. A social animal like me doesn't end up having never been in a relation or ever having sex going into my late 20s without that.
Nahhhh confidence is key man trust me girls notice when your not and its unattractive to them so even if I'm nervous AF I still go for it or act like I don't have any insecurities... fake it till you make it lol