I'm 23 and I'm thinking of going speed dating. I know it's something that will count against me. I mean Id date someone in the same situation "graduated from uni and hasn't managed to find permanent work" but maybe that's just because I'm in that position and can relate? I'm a physics graduate after being lost for a while and taking on 2 unskilled temporary jobs and tutoring a bit I'm now trying to get a job as a data analyst I get interviews for junior positions but there's programing and tools I still have to learn and improve on as well so in the meantime I think I'm likely to be out of work till I learn them well.
I already am dating someone who's unemployed, same as me, though we're both still in uni. I think that I'd want someone to at least be doing something, like if they're not in employment, I'd want them to be in education, not just sitting around doing nothing.
Depends on the situation. I would not date someone who's been unemployed for a long time, who doesn't seem to be looking that hard for work, or who tends to go through cycles with unemployment being a regular occurrence.
When I started dating my boyfriend, he was unemployed. But he had been laid off due to recession and was only unemployed 3 weeks before going back to an old job. He wasn't sitting around playing video games all day either. He was actively looking for work as well as spending his extra time finishing off value-adding projects on his property.
Just because you don't have a job, doesn't mean your any less then the person you are pursuing.. Or anyone for that fact!! Your trying.. Who gives a shit what they think. If someone won't date you because your In-between jobs.. Then they are small minded and aren't worth your time.
If you were someone who didn't give a shit about wether you worked, but cared about your partner working.. Then that would be a different story.
I said yes because it would be smug of me to immediately think that you'd need me to take care of you (which is what most people would think).. when in fact your just looking for another person to enjoy your time with. Now if you are set out for a relationship to be taken care of like a child i'd pass on that quickly.
Yeah cuz your out there looking for work. Its not like your sitting on your ass all day playing computer games in your parents basement. Your interviewing and did some odd jobs. This is normal for kids nowadays getting out of school. Ever since the last recession employers are wanting to hire more experienced individuals. Which fucking sucks because you get out of school and can't find a job. Someone was telling me the other day their friends kid just got his engineering degree and can't find anything. There are people exactly like you.
While studying and once I had my degree, waiting to be drafted I too worked unskilled jobs: mason, warehouse worker. It didn't stop my girlfriend (now my wife) from continuing to date me. Working as a mason was really hard but it paid well. Since I hadn't accomplished my military duty I had to accept what was possible: unskilled labor.
Date, possibly, eventually, when I have time and when I get to it. But as an established long term relationship? I don't see how long it can or will actually last though, and I don't blame the other person I blame the way this world and reality is with the whole economic situation it 's difficult for anyone to hold on to their job forever.
Oh and a big fucking thanks to the rise of and use of automation and automated machinery, that and uh offshoring of jobs.
There is a difference in unemployed but working to resolve the situation and unemployed due to being a shiftless loafer. My decision to date in this case would be dictated by which category they fit into
Well I had a my first good job at 22 but hey everyone is different... So yeaa I would date a girl like that as long as she is not a lazy ass who wants me to pay all the bills... and soon gets a job Lol