This guy I've dated casually a 4-5 weeks here and there over the last five years and I recently started dating again after I got out of a long term (3+ years) relationship. He had told me "I was the one that got away, etc." and that he "always thought of me throughout the years"
We got along great, but I was an emotional mess and still attached emotionally to my ex boyfriend of several years. Every time we hooked up, I'd get weird, insecure and confused. So we split up so that I could "detox" and thinking we would date "in the future."
Just ran into him and saw that he is dating a new girl. The problem is he still texts me occasionally, drunk dials me, pokes me on FB, etc. I know he's keeping me as the "fallback" girl or stringing me along in case this new girl doesn't work out. Although if I return the texts he hardly responds. Which p*sses me off...
I partly blame myself for using him as a "rebound" with my ex when he really liked me-- although I really did care for him and tried to tell him he wasn't a rebound. Am I at fault here? He did turn me down for one last fling- but I still feel hurt like I'm being strung along as a back up. I did like him more at the end of our "dating" than he liked me... but was still attached to my ex.
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Rebound guy is still rebound guy even if you like him more than just a fling. Guys don't like to get hurt so when he saw that you still had feelings for your ex and that he would always be #2, he understood that he had the right to search for happiness somewhere else and if he was going to stay your rebound guy, you might as well be his rebound girl (its some kind of self protection if you want). I understand that its a bit frustrating to see that someone doesn't need you as much as you expect them to do (no one likes that) but you have no right to be mad at him for keeping his options since you are not really available.4