This guy is a few years older than me and is supposedly known as a player. He flirted with me, which I thought lightly of given his reputation. He also showed he knew what people said about him and seemed totally at ease with it. But later on he kept giving me attention and not others, acting genuinly interested and asking when he could see me again. If he keeps this way and doesn't try to go after other girls, should I give it a shot?
If I was looking for a fling I wouldn't hesitate but Im looking for something more serious now and want to know if it's a lost case. In that case I'd only remain friends with him since he's still a nice person either way.
1. Someone will generally try to act on their best behavior when first dating. Just because he's not playing you now doesn't mean he won't.
2. I'm a believer in giving people a shot. He might be looking for something more serious now that he's already played the field.
3. If you give it a shot, keep an eye out for red flags. It's easy to ignore things when you're feeling "new relationship high" but if your gut tells you something is off or he shows signs of just being not right for you, listen to your instinct.
You don't see him going after other girls because you don't have access to his phone, and any guy with a brain won't let the girl he's talking to know about girls he's chasing in other parts of his life. Yeah he's interested in you, the same as he was interested in the girl before you (then moved on), and the girl before that (then moved on), so on and so on. Be smart... whatever his reputation is, that is what you can expect from him, if you expect anything different, you're hopes are lying to you.
Yes, i've never understood why people who keep their options open and their own feelings guarded get a bad reputation.
However, the caveat is that you have to go into this on your guard. You match his interest level, never going above or below it otherwise you risk getting burned hard if it turns out he loses interest. Trust me If he is genuine he will be most definitely worth your time. When "players" give their full attention to one girl it's serious and the girl will get the best man that he can be for her.
I would say the only hope is you hold back on intimacy as "the lure" he wants until you get a signed contract! Otherwise, you are just gonna get strung along and hurt. Maybe have discussion up front with him and see how quickly he darts away. I can show you a video of a player that was caught and married and the girl was "high value"... in other words, she wasn't a push over like all the others he used. Its on youtube, Dr. Phil episode on a "player".
Not dating a guy because of his reputation is the same to me as someone saying i am not going to date her because of the number of sexual partners she has had. Its the same as slut shaming in my book. Just give the guy a chance. If he shows signs of being a player leave. People can change, I should know, when i met my wife there was nothing in the world i wanted to do more than being the right guy for her, and that sparked a lot of change in me.
This isn't a smart question. You KNOW what kind of material he is. Why are you finding reasons for a jackass?
Pretty sure I have a bad reputation for drugs and a kind of rapey scenario that happened. A chick invited me over and was super sexual but went to sleep earlier, I went in and layed down next to her and woke her up an hour later for sex and her room mate caught us and he told my friend who has a big mouth. I was high and also showed up at her work to get my vehicle inspected and she freaked out, I wasn't even there to talk to her anyways. Weird thing was we talked a few times after and she seemed like she wanted to fuck again cause I was so high and only had an expired condom with no lube so basically attempted sex didn't work I finger ed her and she gave me head, I only had it in her for like a minute or two cause the condom was so small. Literally cut the circulation off, she wanted me to bareback her but it was my first time and I didn't want to cum in her so I didn't do it
No. Stay away from him. Players are always players. You can't change them. You're never going to get a happy, serious relationship with him. If you were to actually manage to get into a relationship with him at all then it's likely he'll cheat on you sooner or later. Find a better guy, this one will hurt you.