A guy wants to make a good impression on a first date but he doesn't want to seem too eager, too needy, too desperate. Should he bring flowers to the lady on their first date?
I never did that when I was younger. Over the years, I got older and wiser so, when I was dating about 10 years ago, I would bring a lady a single yellow rose. In the Victorian Era, the yellow rose symbolized friendship and the hope of new beginnings. I told a few guy friends that I did that and they all thought I was nuts, but I kept doing it anyway. Most of the ladies thought it was very nice. . . but ladies who are 40 or 50 years old don't have the same beliefs as younger women, so. . .
What do you think? Flowers on a first date: great idea or bad idea?
I am age 13-21; I think it is a romantic and impressive thing for a guy to do
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I am age 13-21; I think it is a desperate, needy thing for a guy to do
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I am age 22-31; I think it is a romantic and impressive thing for a guy to do
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I am age 22-31; I think it is a desperate, needy thing for a guy to do
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I am age 32+; I think it is a romantic and impressive thing for a guy to do
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I am age 32+; I think it is a desperate, needy thing for a guy to do
I think that a full bouquet may make me feel slightly uncomfortable because I love flowers and am very aware of how expensive they can actually be, but something smaller like a single flower would be really sweet.
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Well I think that the poll speaks for itself, lol, women have always confused me, they say they want chivalry and flowers, but then they don't like flowers, or you are desperate or trying too hard, want someone exciting and fun but end up with a guy that's a piece of poop, and now all guys are pigs while a dude is there to give a girl a shoulder to cry on, lol, I swear women have blinders on when it comes to some of the men they end up with, to them he's Prince Charming but in reality, it's pretty obvious he is a dickhead and a jerk. So confusing.
I think a bouquet is probably too much for a first date, especially if we only met recently, but a single flower is sweet and thoughtful without being too heavy. My ex did that within our first couple of dates and I all but melted lol; made my day. I was pretty into him though, so I'm sure that was part of it.
There's definitely an element of romance to presenting a woman with flowers, and a single flower is the best (I think). I don't frown upon it at all. Although personally, I would prefer if he held off on them for the first couple of dates since I'm allergic to many kinds of flowers. The first date is all about getting to know each other and making a good impression, so I definitely wouldn't want to be sneezing my way through that (or worse, get a rash, LOL!). I imagine a guy would feel quite embarrassed in that situation as well. I would need to have a chance to tell him I don't exactly do well with flowers, even though they are nice.
It seems useless, all you can do with the flowers is put them in something. Which that's if she can find anything good to put them in. Then it ends up looking awful after a point which you either throw out or press it. Then put it some where you probably won't ever look at again. Then I would also feel like a horrible person for not having anything to give as well.
I'm so allergic to flowers that I have no desire to receive any. A church group was giving away roses on Valentine's Day once and I accepted one to get them to leave me alone, and then gave it away to someone else. They saw this and chased me down to give me another one. I turned on my heel and was like "Ladies, I really appreciate the thought but if I keep this in my house I won't be able to breathe in like 10 minutes." And then they argued with me about that. COME ON.
I think it would be romantic and quite impressive.
I think that bringing flowers on a first date is so romantic and sweet. I only see it in the movies or in books. I would so love if a guy does that. Wow.
I'd like it. Especially the yellow rose and if he told me the meaning behind it. Him knowing the meaning is equally as impressive as him bringing the flower because for some reason, good general knowledge and knowing random facts is just somehow sexy.
I think it's a really nice gesture. However, I think it would be more appropriate in my opinion to give flowers on a second or third date. To me, that would be more special.
On a first date, it can make it kind of awkward. Especially if they have room-mates, then they go home with a bouquet of flowers and the people are asking if that is their boyfriend now. Worse yet, if they still live with their parents it makes it awkward as well.
I think the best bet is to wait. I love flowers, but getting them right away from a guy just doesn't seem as sincere. I want him to give them to me because he wants to. Not just because he wants to get in my pants or show he wants to be with me right away.
In my experience, whenever a guy does grand gestures in the beginning, he quickly burns out and then loses interest really quickly. I've had that happen to me a few times where the guy is incredibly interested, then all of a sudden he's not and I am left heart broken because I felt like he really did like me.
This is one of those questions where you want to say what everyone else is saying "oh its so cute blah blah" BUT being pragmatic, It's a bad idea. I mean look around, it's unusual on a first date guys can we be real here? You never want to be "qualifying" yourself, ESPECIALLY on a first date. There's more risks than potential benefits to go over the top on the first date like that, it'll make a lot of girls uncomfortable in my opinion. With this said, obviously flowers and being chivalrous is a great idea. But you don't want to be so strong immediately, it's too much. But down the line, Absolutely!! I buy flowers all the time for a girl I've been dating.
Given this day and age, and how romance isn't something you can win girls with, it just sounds desperate, it will only make the girl feel awkward because she's going on a date with a doormat. She's most likely gonna be turned off by it.
This is unfortunate, but it's how it works at least with young people.
Dont do it. its the first date so its not really need it. the date could be a flop, i say just focus on having a good time and discovering her personality. stimulating her brain, thats better and will last longer. giving her "things" isn't going to make her like you more its just "nice". she can get flowers anytime at any place, pay attention to her and you'll know the best time to give her flowers
I wouldn't for two reasons: 1) it's sappy, and 2) at that point I don't know if she even likey flowers, much less which ones. So, my only option would be something stereotypical like roses. That's lame and boring. I might bring her a nice flowering cactus, though. On the third date.