Hi this might be a little embarrassing but I've been worried that I may die alone. I mean what's wrong with me? I never had a boyfriend in high school. I had crushes on guys but no guy ever asked me out. Then I went to a college that was predominantly women and so there was too much competition. Now I am a college graduate and I am single and miserable. I am literally consumed with this thought and I dont know what to do. I do not drive and all my female friends are boring and they don't go out to bars or clubs or anything, At this point I don't even know if I am capable of being in a relationship because I don't even know what they are!
I literally cry about this because I feel like I can literally live my entire life and never find anyone. Some women who are pretty don't even have to make an effort or try to get a man, men just approach them. That is my dream! The only men that have approached me are old ratchet men. I am college educated and I actually speak English correctly. Is it too much to ask for a man that is on my level? Why should I lower my standards? Anyway what do you suggest I do? At this point I am socially awkward and embarrassed by my inexperience with men.
I am a black woman with dark skin (I am African). Do you think it is because I am a black woman? I hear it is more difficult for black women to find a good man because a lot of men like Caucasian women. I hate to say this but sometimes I wish I were Caucasian (I love being black but it seems to be easier for them to get guys). And I have seen Caucasian girls that are uglier than me and they always get decent guys. :-(I just want a guy to call my own...
Most Helpful Guy
I'm in the same boat kind of. I'm 22 and have been sailing solo for a long time and I don't always want it to be like that. I just lack the confidence to ask girls out. I know what my problem is which is the confidence thing I just can't bring myself to become confident. I think unfortunately there is a little truth about black women having it harder. Which I think is dumb since I've been attracted to many black women and I don't get why others don't find them attractive. Don't wish to be white. Love who you are and love the skin that you have. Just because other asshats think being white is better doesn't mean it's true. Don't become what racists desire. Find a guy that loves you for what you already look like.0
Most Helpful Girl
I am 23, same no guys none on the horizon, I am white. Your seriously not alone especially when choosing not to lower your standards for just anyone (that is maturity), can't really offer much advice but wanted you to know your not the only one out there feeling this way.2