I have a lot of male friends, in part because I work in a very male-dominated field. But my boyfriend says now that we've been seeing each other for a while, it's time for me to stop "seeing other men." By which he means hanging out with my male friends. He says that he knows they want to sleep with me and it's cheating for me to spend time with another man, even if I'm not at all sexually interested in them. He said no guy who loves his girl would want her spending time with another man.
Is this normal?
Most Helpful Guy
What y'all should think is what good things these friends bring to ur relationship if they are there to complicate things then they are not worth ur time at all. He's saying this because he knows what guys think of. I know there're friends who won't cross the line but the vast majority are waiting for a moment to make a move and get that one thing they want from u.
I think it's better to make them mutual friends if u can't get rid of them so next time when u wanna go out with ur friend bring ur boyfriend with u I don't know how this feels but that's my opinion.0
Most Helpful Girl
Dump his ass. I'm sorry, but if my boyfriend wanted me to completely stop speaking with my male friends, it would be a problem. I get along with guys really well and I have fun conversing with them as well. It doesn't mean I love my boyfriend any less. My best friend is a guy. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. We both have no problems with either one of us hanging out one on one with our best friends. I sleep over at my best friends house all the time. He and I are like brother and sister with each other. I mean, the dude has even had sex in the same bed as me with some other chick and when he told me later on the same day it happened that he did, I didn't even care. I'm not into him like that.
I would never ask my boyfriend to stop hanging out with his best friend. I love him and I trust him. Your boyfriend is showing signs that he doesn't. It's okay to be insecure, but he's reaching an unacceptable level. Talk with him about it, but remember that you can't change a person or their mind unless they want to. If you're willing to lose your friends, then continue dating him, but I would seriously reconsider this relationship because to me it's already headed in the wrong direction.2