He is not my type and in the past it was not difficult to get ride of guys that i do not like but he is so damn sweet! no one has ever been so nice with me. I do not want to hurt his feelings but at the same time i do not want to stop talking with him.
He is just not my type and he is also a year younger than me.
Most Helpful Guy
You're just going to have to bite the bullet and let him know that you're not interested. There really isn't a "good" way that isn't going to hurt him, especially if he's really interested. I had something like this happen after college, and the girl just never told me. And I fell harder and harder until I basically had to make a move, and that's when she rejected me. It would've been easier if she'd done it earlier.
So I'd just try and find time to make it clear that you're interested in a friendship (if you are) but not dating.
You could also do the classic situation where you pretend that both of you are on the same page and are platonic friends and either talk about other guys or someone you're dating. That's actually how the friendship I mentioned ended. She casually mentioned a boyfriend at a party I thought we were at together. It isn't the best way, but it's an easy way to bring it up if you don't want to say "hey, you're great but I'm not interested in dating" out of the blue.1
Most Helpful Girl
I pretty much agree with BrianG on this one. The most direct way is probably going to be the best. I wouldn't call him up or text him specifically to say that, but mention it the next time you're with him. Being kind is key, and make it clear that it isn't anything he did wrong, just that you're not into him that way. You also want to be clear about how you feel though. I made the mistake of not being clear with a former friend of mine, and things got muddled to the point where I had to end the friendship cold turkey.
Using the world "friend", "buddy", or "dude" to address him may be another way to go. They can sometimes be enough to signal that you view him as a friend and not a romantic interest.0