For example when not with friends or family, I'm a quiet person and I'm not myself.
It's like this with girls I like too... I get nervous and close myself off and pass up opportunities and I'm not the humorous fun guy I know I am.
I am convinced that I'm single because of this, but I don't know why I become like this?
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I empathize with you completely. I felt like this for the longest time.
First you need to know yourself. Find out what makes you tick. What you like talking about. What makes you laugh. Etc. And evaluate if the people you hang out with are genuinely into that same sort of thing. If not, then you may want to consider finding new people.
Write down what you accomplished and what you are ambitious of. What you're passionate of. Everything you write down you should know yourself that you can talk about it.
And don't be shameful of your quietness. Maybe you just love to listen to people. And you know, you're not going to be quiet all the time. There will be times where you'll feel like going on about something that you really love talking about.
Perhaps practice baby steps. Go out and just say 'hello' to strangers. Step it up once by walking by giving them compliments. Step it up again and thank them for being receptive. Then push for a conversation with that. Be completely honest and authentic by stating you're shy and nervous.
Just know that you are already an awesome, powerful person. You just need to give yourself permission to be that way, and stop getting in your own way.0