my new boyfriend is really really shy to initiate sex and does not talk about it at all. Not at all. He is really shy even though he wants to get intimate, his heart seems to be racing even for initiating it. How can I reduce his shyness and bring us to more talking it out and in action? I think he is shy because he wants to be respecting of my culture.
I would say that's true to some extent, lol :) My boyfriend at the beginning of our relationship was treading lightly when we first got together because I think he was nervous that he might be moving too fast. I'm a pretty shy girl so of course I wasn't going to initiate anothing, lol :P I eventually just told him that I wanted to move things along & he gladly accepted ahaha :P I guess don't wanna seem too eager or pushy about it, you know? Sometimes guys get a bad reputation when they don't respect a girl's space/boundaries :) I appreciate how considerate he was!! :)
My SO wouldn't really initiate often and when I asked why that was, and he'd always joke about how horny I was all the time, he said he just likes to test the waters. It didn't take him long to be making his constant sex jokes and saying things and asking for it himself. So I'd say no. He's just getting a feeler for you, doesn't want to pressure you out of respect, and then when he understands that he may go for it.
Unless what he's asking for is really weird and freakish and then he may take years to share it.
Totally depends on the guy. Yes he's probably nervous about it, it should get easier once you guys are together longer and you are more comfortable with each other, but I feel like for most people in the beginning it always takes a little time.
It really depends on the person, I've only had a few SOs but several sexual partners, and they were all different, some were shier than others, but in general most of them were really outgoing in bed, maybe because they already had plenty of experience, and I think the best thing you can do is talking about it with him
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