At first I didn't mind dating a man who has kids, but after my last relationship and my last "attempted" relationship, I have mixed feelings about it. I have nothing against kids. I love them, especially if they're fat. I do want my own one day, but I don't want to date a man that already has kids. When I first start talking to man, and he tells me he has a child or children, I stop communicating with him. It's as if I do this naturally. My desire for him drops tremendously. I don't know why. What do you think? Am I wrong for this? Should I be more open about it? Do I feel this way because I don't have children of my own yet?
Also, when I stop talking to a man because he has a child, he normally asks me why I stopped talking to him... should I tell him that was the reason? How would you feel?
Most Helpful Guy
Just be open about it.
I have three kids. If I were single again, I absolutely understand why non-parents would not be interested. They are the best things in my life, but they're also a -big deal-.2
Most Helpful Girl
There's nothing wrong with preferring not to get involved with a man who's already got a family of his own. I'd do the same thing.
Not that I hate children, but I'd be hesitant to get into a relationship that would bring with it the responsibility of my having to raise someone else's children, alongside my own that I plan on having in the future.1