I'm very new to the relationship game, I'm 21 and at university and this year I got my first boyfriend. I had my first kiss the day we started dating and it seemed like he really liked me. He said I was pretty and nice and that he thought about me all the time but it's now been just over two months and while in the begining he seemed to want to go on dates now he doesn't. He hangs out with lots of other people but when I ask if he wants to he treats it like a chore that he can only bother to get around to if he isn't feeling too tired. We live in the same college and all we've really ended up doing is watching series in my room and cuddling where as before he would ask me to play pool or go bowling or to a movie. Now even the cuddling seems too much for him. I don't want to seem too clingy but I want to hang out with him but I get the vibe he doesn't want to hang out with me even though he says he does. Even though he says he loves me and he still calls me pretty. He doesn't talk to me anymore when he used to tell me everything that happened in his day. Have I done something wrong? Am I over reacting? Please help I just don't really know what I'm doing and I'm afraid I'm failing and I still love him but at times when he rejects me I almost feel like I'm starting to resent him.
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Two months seems very soon to have this happen, but this is pretty common behavior in a lot of long term relationships. You get comfortable with each other and you stop putting in effort. I think it's up to both people to be aware of whether or not it's happening and let their partner know if it is. I dont think so much that he's not interested in you anymore, he just feels like there's not much he has to do to keep you around anymore because you guys are together. Tell him how you feel, and if he's a good boyfriend he'll do his best to change that0
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