Would you date/marry a girl who wanted to be a stay at home mom/housewife? I see so much hate on women who choose this and guys usually say they would never date a girl who wanted to stay at home and raise their kids, yet there are still many women who do it. So why does it seem like everyone is so against it, even though it kind of common today still? I mean, how can so many women do it if there are so few men who would agree to it?
Most Helpful Guy
Since you asked for male opinions:
No. I wouldn't.
I had a girl who was literally telling me that she wanted to stay at home, take care of the house and kids, and wear sexy outfits and make love or have sex with me every day when I came back home from work... but that "Working just isn't for me. I don't really like or enjoy working"
That's nice. I don't really like or enjoy working all the time either, but you eventually find purpose and identity through "what" you do. I can't respect a woman that just stays at home. I just don't see her as a person anymore. I see her as a maid, a very fucking expensive maid and babysitter who I can't even deduct on my tax return. A maid and babysitter that's so tired and exhausted that I feel bad even thinking about having sex with.
You know what I'd much rather prefer, and what I actually married? A working woman. She puts her ours in at work, for $50+/hr. net of tax, so we can pay a babysitter $20/hr. (tax inclusive/gross), and a cleaning lady $20/hr. (tax inclusive/gross) as domestic household employees for 30 hours and 8 hours a week respectively.
Assuming we split it 50/50, that leaves about $40+/hr. in her pocket. When she comes back home from work, she's more mentally relaxed and able to focus on other things... like our sexual relationship and US. Our kids are able to look "UP" to her and admire their mother, and see her as a role model.
So, all justifications and rationalizations for laziness aside, I'm simply not sold on the stay-at-home don't-work lifetime partner proposition. Sorry.1
Most Helpful Girl
You can choose whatever you want to do in life. I think the complains tend to mainly come from men that married women that have no goals at all, that don't want to do anything but lay there, watch TV and eat popcorn.
Off course if you're not going to work and he comes home tired from working all those hours but you have nothing prepared at all (just you sitting on the couch) then yes I can see how that might cause some issues.
Another reason is they more than likely don't want a permanent stay-at-home mother that never plans to ever get into college or work once the kids are old enough.0