I just woke up and I completely wasted my 23rd year! OMG , I did nothing but being broke and living at my crazy mothers house, I am so depressed... im working on my drivers license instead of moving out! I should have moved out a long time ago! Do I have time to fix my life and friends! my friends are a bad influence... my mom too, they do jackshit... im scared that after 25 I am screwed... I suck at making priorities..
Most Helpful Guy
The first step is knowing that you want to go in a new direction. This will happen all through your life, not just here. This age... is a high change area and so I applaud you for figuring out that you need a change to get into a more healthy environment. Many have done it before you, and you can do it. I'm not saying it is easy.
Yes you have a solid 60yrs, so you have plenty of time, and this can be done inside of a few. Just getting to a place where you have positive and supportive friends and work you enjoy will help. Seriously, consider going to church... it isn't perfect, many flawed people there, but if when you start to get it, it feeds you back and you give from that... it is good once you "get it".
Seriously consider getting a counselor when you can afford it. All that crap you just dealt with... early in life... its gonna warp your view of the world. That needs cleaned up. Some of that can be done on your own and over time, but counseling can help, or reading books on relationships and such until you have the funds.
Its the first day of the start of the rest of your life, yes, you can do it and do it so it is a great journey!
I'm sorry your mom sucks.
give more clarity on your scenarios and can try to provide more detail. Where are you?
If you feel bad that you wasted a year... then count yourself lucky, I've talked to peole who say they've wasted a lot more than that...8-15+. That viewpoint and discovery is depressing as hell isn't it! Now if you can change your mindset a bit and realize that all that suffering and wasting of time... was what was neccessary "fuel" to get you to change your life... if you discovered something of value about yourself, your mom (even that she is mentally ill and didn't see it before), that your friends were sucking the life out of you, that there is goodness somewhere int he wrold... whatever... then that WAS NOT A WASTED YEAR! That was one of the most valuable ones wasn't it! :) So now that you went through the hard work of making the decision, now you can focus on the best part... discovering the real you, being the real you, learning, changing and growing. ITS GONNA BE AWSOME.!
I love this "break out" song for this very concept.
Most Helpful Girl
I'm 24 too. And I'm unemployed I'm looking for a job. I have no car. I have a driver's permit. So if you are employed at least you are off to a good start. I was lucky enough to get free therapy but sometimes I can't go because I rarely have money for transportation
Just do your best and don't give up0