Every other question seems to be like... does he/she like me? How can I win him/her back? He/she cheated on me, what do I do now? Blah blah blah. It's all very depressing. I'm looking for the other guys and girls who laugh when they see these kinds of things because they actually have self-respect and don't waste their time and energy on such frivolous issues. Those of you who simply move on with your own lives in pursuit of your own happiness instead. Surely I can't be the only one on here. For the sake of asking a REAL question... then how did you all gain your self-esteem, confidence, and integrity in the first place? For all you insecure types out there, pay close attention to these replies and learn from them.
Well, isn't that the purpose of sites like this? I think a lot of people who ask those questions are simply young and inexperienced. Deep down, most of them already know the answer to their question but they want to hear other people confirm it. They want to know that they're not alone and that others have similar experiences. And some of them really are inexperienced and just want advice. There's nothing wrong with that. Personally I find it more annoying when people ask if a certain trait is desirable to the opposite sex or not because they feel insecure. For instance, do guys like small boobs, is my dick too small to please a girl, do white girls only go for white guys etc. I see questions like this almost everyday and for some reason they get more responses than real, genuine questions where someone actually needs advice. Sorry for the rant. Haha but to answer your question, I don't think confident people feel the need to ask those kinds of questions. They feel secure enough to trust their own judgement and don't feel the need to ask a bunch of strangers why a certain guy/girl lost interest in them. Instead of over-analyzing every single detail they ask the only person who has the answer or simply move on. At least that's how I see it. I don't know how to gain such confidence and self-esteem because I'm still working on it myself. But I guess feeling confident in your own skin and striving to be the best version of yourself (eat healthy, exercise, take care of yourself) is the first step. It helped me a great deal
I use to be self conscious and focus on my flaws until a person in my life told me that I do that and he didn't understand why. He said your fine how you are yet you only see the bad. I didn't want to be viewed that way. So I embraced the things I couldnt change and did things to change what I could about myself. Since then, I believe people when they compliment me and laugh at myself when I do something goofy. It relieved a lot of stress caused by myself and helped me to become more carefree and overall just a happier person. I am happy with myself and now no longer strive for acceptance from everyone. I know I'm flawed but I also know that it's ok.
the way i see it, my mom told me that i was ugly, fat, stupid, and crazy. she also told me that "I was a failure." Now, I've lots of guys tell me I'm pretty and I just kind of blew it off. It doesn't get any worse than your own mother telling you things as nasty as that. And the way i see it? I don't have to be pretty, because I know I'm smart. I've also been told I have artistic talent. That's good enough for me. If you think I'm pretty cool. If not, oh well. I came to terms with that a long time ago.
i accepted my flaws a while ago, i do care what people think of me but not as much as people should care of what *i* think of *them*. most people walk into a room very self aware but i walk in analyzing everybody there. everyone is ready to *be* judged but fewer actually do the judging.