Okay so i'm not at all ready for a relationship at this point, I've only slept with one guy who was my boyfriend for a year. I'm pretty much one of those girls who has to be in a relationship in order to do anything sexual. But as i said i'm really not ready for one at this point but i still want to have sex. I don't wanna be the girl who has a fuck buddy then catches feelings and ruins the flow of things, or to have a guy " hit and quit " and to feel like shit. How does one know if casual sex is for them? Is it for you?
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I learned the hard way hahahah. It was terrible (for me!). Like you, I had only had sex with one guy who was my boyfriend prior to my new experience. I went on tinder, matched with many guys before I selected this college track star, super good looking.. And we made plans to "hang out" of which I knew before going in I was going to try my one night stand.
So I went, we had much better sex than my ex and I had. I remember it was on New Years and I sped home afterwards feeling such a great high, laughing saying I will never see his face again but that was a great time! And I had meant it! However... For some reason, a couple nights later we met and had sex again. And again. After the 3rd time we had sex a week later, I got hooked. I became so attached to him and I never expected it. I never saw it coming or tried to. What's strange is that I'm kinda an introverted loner, artsy person and he just was this (kinda stupid) athlete who partied. I remember after having sex with him the first time, I'll never forget, I looked over at him as he was talking and I thought, ugh shut up, I hate you (bc he was so great in bed but he was shallow and like a little kid. Our conversations went no where. Which is why I know my feelings must have been purely sexual).
Anyways, it lasted a few months.. Cat and mouse. He kept me hooked by saying certain things, filling me up and hurting me more each time. he knew I was attached and used it for himself. I got my feelings very hurt.. like he'd be out of town banging someone else. I felt gross the last time we had sex, and literally overnight I "woke up" and wanted nothing to do with him again. Haven't spoke to him since. I learned a lot about myself and what I want and don't want, or can and cannot handle, and I am glad of the experience, even if I was an emotional wreck for a couple months.
If you try it, I recommend one nighters. I don't think you can get attached with one nighters (as long as you don't make it to 2!)0