My religion is really important to me and I don't think I'd want to date a guy who didn't share it. I mean, for one, I'd want my kids to be raised in my faith, and that would probably be a big conflict if I married a guy who wasn't the same religion. Plus there's a lot of other things, like I'd be worried a non-religious guy wouldn't be happy waiting til marriage. I just don't think I could do it, but some of my friends say I'm being a bigot for saying I wouldn't date someone who's not my faith. Am I wrong?
Absolutely not. When it comes to relationships, religion and politics are the kind of thing that can end a marriage faster then light. It's not just a question of your willingness to "tolerate" someone else's belief or lack of belief. It's a matter of dramatically contrasting worldviews, and when worldviews collide, the results can be devastating for a marital relationship.
However, given that you say that "I'd want my kids to be raised in my faith", I wonder how important your religion is to you.
You don't do it because you think you can't... It's all about your mindset and clearly you are just not open to the possibility because you are too busy living in fear instead of experiencing it and finding out for yourself if it can work or not. Maybe it can't, maybe it can, you don't know.
But I guess that's what religion does to you, control your mind about the things you can and cannot do.. Do your thing girl and if you really believe that only a religious man can provide you waht you want, go ahead and do that, maybe he will, maybe he won't... That you can only know when and if 20 years from now he is still the same man and you are the same woman you are today...
Life is a very powerful teacher and sometimes it will give you things in the least way expected... so brace yourself, you might just be surprised in thinking you know better :)
Well, it's incredibly stupid. In my rational and personal opinion. Religion should not be the thing that directs your life or decides or tells you what to do or what not to do. All you truly need is faith. Faith and unconditional love in a man that's just. I can guarantee you there would be more compatible mates outside of your religion.
Neither. However, you would be severely limiting the men in your dating pool. For example: Me. I'm an Atheist that doesn't want to be married and doesn't want to have kids. That alone rules out 95% of my dating pool. Only thing I would compromise is religion and I would let them know I would not convert.
Not at all. If anything, I think two people sharing their lives together should at least share a moral framework and oftentimes that is informed by your religion. As an atheist who believes most morality is relative rather than definitive, it is hard for me to see myself with someone who follows a fairly laid out idea of morality whether I abide by them or not. There is also the question of the kids; which religion they would grow up with can get quite contentious.
No it's not, it's just a preference, if your religion is not important to you and you don't think you would have a preference in the future then so be it, however there's many people who want their children to be raised in the same religion and not many people are willing to convert and actually commit, so I think you're reasonable.
I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't really belong to a religion any longer but was raised in a way that would conflict with a few other religions so I couldn't date guys who associate with certain ones either. (Let's not forget that cultural ways and religion are super closely intertwined.)
I don't see anything wrong with that. You have every right to date or not date someone for any reason you see fit. It's your choice. If you want your partner to share your religion, there's nothing wrong with that.