Why is he unsure about having sex?

Me and boyfriend were talking about having sex the other day we met and I was surprised when he started telling he that he was unsure if he wants to have sex :/ He said a part of him wanted it yet another part of him not, I'm curious, what makes a guy acting this way? Is there actually any reasons?


Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah, he could have religious objections, or want to take it slow, he could be worried about pregnancy or stds, he may just be super traditional. Ask him what his aphrensions are.


Most Helpful Girl

  • You sound childish.

    Men aren't sex objects. They have different emotions, too, and to put them in a narrow box, assuming they always want sex, or should always be easily excitable, is not fair. Men are not sex objects, just like women are not.

    One thing you can do when you find yourself in this situation is to go with your boyfriend a medical doctor to discover whether or not his lack of desire is tied to a medical issue.

    He may be experiencing low testosterone, which is a normal result of aging, this can cause a loss of libido.

    He may be depressed or under undo stress at work, in which case he may be over-reaching for alcohol, caffeine or drugs, all of which can effect sexual drive and performance.

    Or even he may be watching porn and therefore masturbating, lowering his own sexual function.

    Wishing you the best of luck.


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What Guys Said 1

  • He probably has a small penis and is afraid (justifiably so) that you will dump him.


What Girls Said 2

  • What would make anyone act that way? Them simply being unsure. There is nothing weird, or unusual about it. Just respect his decisions.

  • Either he's very religious or he's gay.