Met a guy, we talked on the phone for hours. He told me he wanted me to submit to him, and be his. I told him let's take things slow. I am a little worried by his readiness to jump into a relationship with me. He seems great from what I know so far, but it's still too early to tell. He first told me he is looking for just a friend that could lead to possibly more. I told him I was looking for the same thing, but now he's wanting to be with me exclusively and wants me to stop talking to other men. I find this weird. What do you think? Red flag? Should I run for my damn life?
Most Helpful Guy
If you're not looking for a relationship with a certain amount of D/s, sounds like he's not the right guy for you.
Beyond that... I don't mind the get in or get out approach on relationships. Maybe it's not for you, but for a lot of people, if they're going 'slow' they're not going anywhere, they're just passing time waiting for someone better. Obviously you're not sure before a relationship if it's going to work long term, but you typically still don't know 6 months of 'going slow' later. You get in, see if it works, see if you can work out differences, and if not, you leave.1
Most Helpful Girl
how long have y'all been talking? if its been a few months, then yea i can see him wanting more with you but if your not feeling the same way then let him know you still want to date a little longer. See how you feel then. If its just a month or less, that is quick and just let him know and if he keeps pressuring it then yea end it bc he is now acting clingy.
You may not be that into him.1