Well, honestly, you chose to have a relationship so you MAKE time for him, even if that means you skip the gym one evening a week or cancel something here or there. So that is on you a bit to make time. My SO lives 2.5 hours away, and that drive feels like nothing because I know I get to see him at the other end.
You should ask what he means by lost. Perhaps he's trying to be cute, perhaps it's just his way of saying he misses you (which is perfectly fair after a couple months to be developing strong feelings and want them around). Doesn't mean he's sitting there sucking his thumb and lost in the world.
But I can see where you're coming from too, sometimes I just want to play devils advocate. And if it makes you uncomfortable you should tell him that. And ask what he means, even say that he's moving too fast or something (so don't outright call him a creep or anything). But yes, some guys like that aren't just being cute or whatever and actually can be quite scary, so you should say something now I think.
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Why don't you guys just meet up somewhere instead? Just meet each other half way. If his not willing to put in some effort then there is something wrong; A relationship isn't a one sided situation where one person has to do all the work and effort, its a two way thing, it's balancing both ends of the relationship. You just have to try and make him put in some effort as well, sounds like a lot of stress your under! :( Why don't you take him to the gym with you if his interested in it? If you starting to get annoyed and stressed out with his behaviour its best to just dump him. Like I said he has to put in some effort as well! :/
Eeeeeeeee... that would be too much for me. You need to be making decisions abotu what's best for you. Not what's best for him. If he's really in a place where breaking up after two months is going to turn him into a mess he shouldn't be in a relationship anyway.
People are saying dump him and leave him, which isn't really good advice. I see two things right now, which make your boyfriend dependent on you.
1. He seems free, doesn't have a job, or other hobbies.
2. You are busy and have a hobby like the gym, therefore you don't need him to be by your side all the time.
Maybe ask him to go job searching? Or maybe he can go to the gym. The gym is my outlet for stress from working and school. If he gets busy or consumed with anything else, he'll be less reliant on you
You need to tell him how you feel. That you think he's way too dependent on you, and needs to find his own independence.
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Doesn't he bike? Tell him to ride a really good bike
dump him he's a loser, find a real man
can't he just take a bus?
Leave him.
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