I've been single for over a year now, not because im extremely picky but because i just haven't felt a connection to anyone in a really long while. just no chemistry with anyone.
but lately i've been talking to these two guys and they are just so great.
they're both considerate and sweet, easy to talk to, funny, have good manners, have good paying jobs and are gentlemen (the type that open doors and dont ever want me paying when we go out no matter how much i insist), and are just easy to get along with. just the problem is that i dont feel any sparks with either of them. sure they're easy to talk to and there's no drama but there's also no excitement. im not saying i want a "bad boy", all of my ex's had the same characteristics as them, i find these traits extremely admirable, but there were also sparks with my ex's, unlike them.
a part of me thinks i should just date one of them already because i constantly hear stories about guys mistreating their girlfriends so im glad i've attracted some great guys, but then another part of me feels like it'd just be pointless since there's no real chemistry. what do you think?
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The point he's trying to say is that your not going to find these guys to often. He's saying that sure you might not be attracted with a spark, but when you do find that "spark", its most likely going to be with someone who doesn't treat you right, and then your going to feel that statement.
Personally its your life, and you should trust yourself to make your own decision, but maybe try with one of the guys, give them a shot, see if a spark gets lighted. That being said, don't force yourself to date them if you don't want to, it will cause more pain than gain, but if you really want to see how they treat you, and if you could date one, try dating them.1
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