I'm 27 she's 26 we're both divorced people with plenty of experience dating. She's a woman I can be myself with. I know what to say to make her feel better or to make her laugh and she knows exactly how I'm feeling. I never have to explain myself when I say something stupid. Our 1st kiss was incredible and every kiss after even more so. It came to a stop one night at my house when I told I her how she made me feel. I made the mistake of asking if we could lay down and watch tv. I had no intentions of having sex with her. I got a text the next day saying she didn't want to see me anymore. She said I had made her uncomfortable talking about a relationship and that I made sexual advances towards her. We talked some more and she tells me only texting and phone conversation. She tells me "lets be friends for now" and I know what that means but the "for now" keeps me sticking around. But our conversations turn into one word sentences so I decide to eventually ghost her. I go two weeks without messaging her to give her a way out and it hurts. Then I get messages asking me how I'm doing and we start talking again.
I know what I want. I can't be a real friend to her because I know if she starts dating someone I'll be depressed and angry. However she flirts, we use pet names, she asks me if we can hang out and we play video games and cuddle. We don't kiss, I can't tell if she wants to or not. She told me three days ago I'm a good friend. She told me yesterday I always know how to make her smile. We're going on a picnic with my dogs to the park this weekend.
I'm so confused as to how to move forward because I can't just be her friend. There is a genuine dorky chemistry and I know being just friends will hurt us in the long run. I feel the moment things got serious she backed away. This felt real, it hurt like hell when it was "over", and now it's beginning to feel real again but I don't trust my judgement of this situation and fear I'm projecting my desires onto reality.
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My thinking is just have fun. Don't think of it as a friendship and try to deduce what her goal is. Obviously she has somethings to workout before she can move on. In essence have the time of your life with her. If you want to be the man she wants then be one she can come to for a smile and a good time :)1