I think there's something seriously wrong with me. I've always considered others' feelings before my own (ex. having sex with someone even though I didn't want to because I thought saying no would hurt them). However I never thought it was a serious concern until now. My boyfriend cheated on me and I cried but I honestly don't know why I was upset because as soon as he started crying I wanted to comfort him. I left and said we were done but when I got home I had a message from him saying he'd never been so sad in his life and that he didn't want to lose me so I told him it was okay and we're together again. I'm not angry at him at all and it's the next day I'm just scared that he'll do it again. I don't understand how I feel. I'm very confused. How did you feel when you were cheated on? Does how I am reacting make sense?
Most Helpful Guy
You are too compassionate and caring of other. I agree that love is a powerful thing and wanting to make your SO happy is something we often put before what we as an individual feel and want. But there comes a time when you sacrifice so much for them that things sort to feel one sided and you end up in a depressed state or with mix emotions like you have now, just remember that pleasing him is all well and good but there needs to be a line and he crossed it. Some things are never worth looking over and past, and you need to firmly stand your ground1
Most Helpful Girl
Emotionally yeah I have... You have to stop putting your all for those who will not do the same for you. I'd forgive my.. EX lol but I wouldn't take him back. Know one accidentally fall's into kitty cat or onto a banana or eggplant. I just think you're mad (crazy) to comfort HIM-_- after he misused your trust, cause I'm pretty sure he didn't give a fudgesicle about you or your feeling's as he was slathering that chick with baby gravy. if you are scared he will do it again, WHYYYYY give him another chance if you don't trust him. What is a healthy relationship without trust and communication and love? yeah people learn from their mistake's, but I think you are ok with this situation a little too soon.0