He admitted that he cheated on his ex girlfriend once and she broke up with him. He says that he's changed and would never do that again.
I've never been cheated on or have cheated on someone so I don't know the whole situation.
I contacted his ex girlfriend on Facebook to know what her opinion is. She told me to stay away from him and that he's a scumbag player.
He seems mature to me and we are really excited attracted to each other but I'm not sure if I want to continue with him or not.
Has anyone else been in this situation?
What did you do?
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You're pretty young, and I'm assuming he is as well. People make mistakes all the time, even big ones. Sometimes, people learn from those mistakes.
The fact he told you upfront is a bit strange, but I guess he felt the need to share it.
I'd be more interested in how he explained the reasoning behind his transgression. If he is all "who gives a damn" with his attitude when he explained it, well, then he probably will do it again, and soon, and with just any piece of ass that happens to catch his eye. If he puts all the blame for it on her (other than admitting it was wrong to do it), or he says he "... was wrong to do it, but..." then he probably is one to "self-justify" everything he does wrong as someone else's fault. He'll cheat again, for sure.
If he claims it was because he was under the influence of alcohol or some other controlled substance, and he would "never do it sober," what's his lifestyle like? If he was drunk when it happened, and he's not a big drinker now, then he maybe did change. But if he was drunk when it happened, and he's at the bar four nights a week, then he didn't change, because his lifestyle didn't change.
That all said, no matter what, contacting the ex girlfriend really was pointless. What kind of answer did you honestly expect from her? EVEN IF he never, and I mean NEVER, cheated on her, I can't imagine it would have been likely she would have given you a positive reference about him. Of all my exes, I can count on one finger how many I could still speak positively about, and the reason for our breakup wasn't because either of us did anything wrong to each other, but our lives pulled us in different, and incompatible directions. No cheating happened by either of us on each other, just life changes to great to overcome.0