My boyfriend said I'm insecure and very needy and clingy. How do I fix this situation?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, for starters, your boyfriend shouldn't speak to you like that. It's not a healthy form of communication. But of you still want to address those three issues, let's take them one at a time.
So first insecurity. What exactly is it that you are insecure about? You have to identify the problem first, than you can try to improve in those areas. For example if it's body image you can get a gym membership, see a personal trainer, and consult a nutritionist. Also, you can try personal affirmations. For instance, every day when you wake up, take a second to tell yourself how smart, beautiful, and amazing you are.
Second, being needy, learn to do things on your own. Try your best to get the job done, so to speak, before asking for help. When you do need help, instead of just letting someone else do it for you, have them show you how to do it so you can do it yourself next time.
Third, spend time doing things you like, hang out with your friends. Have a girl's night out once or twice a week. And let him have his space too.
Is always good to work on yourself, to try and become the best version of you that you can be. But it's never healthy to let people put you down. You're an amazing person, and the people you give the privilege of knowing you too should respect you as one.3
Most Helpful Girl
Try your best to have interests outside of the relationship. Try to distract yourself from always having to be in contact with him. I'm not sure of your full situation. But oftentimes the complaint of clinginess comes from constantly having to talk to someone and be in the know about everything going on with them.
Take a class, start reading a book, catch up with friends, do something that can pre-occupy yourself with so that you aren't constantly talking to your partner. Not sure if you are, but it might help make them feel like you are not so clingy.
Some people like clingy, some people like knowing what their partner is doing all the time. I'm talking to a guy right now who is just like me, and loves to talk all day and it's going great so far. He's very nice and never gets upset when I text him.. But some other people feel smothered when that happens.
It's all about preference!1