I would say that almost everyone can't control their feelings but, i feel like i can and maybe I'm not the only one. All my friends tell me they can't but i can.
This is what i mean: When i meet a woman that is attractive to me and that is single, of course im interested in her and as i get to know her i get even more interested if we have a lot of things in common. At that point its when i can let my feelings either move forward or stop. Say she was too young or for whatever simple reason i cluldnt date her but could be friends with her, then i will put whatever i felt at that moment on hold and i dont allow myself to like the person more. Instead i start to look at her as a friend and not as a person i would date. And thats how i control them because i dont allow myself to go past that point.
Im not sure if everyone is like that but none of my friends are like that. Can you control your feelings?
I think that we can't control our feelings, it's impossible, we just feel what we feel. However, we can control our reactions to our feelings and our actions according to what we feel. In other words, reason should lead us, not emotion. If we control our actions and reactions too much, the feelings may eventually disappear because reason convinced us that it wasn't the best option.
But otherwise, if it's sexual attraction, that's not really an emergency to me. I have epic fantasies. I fap hard, with extreme intensity and vigor, until dehydration takes over. But face to face with them I can act calm xD Even my friends who know me through and through can't tell how I feel towards a person if I don't want anyone to notice. Infatuations are bound to wear off within months, anyways.
I don't have any feelings because am not human... I'm a reptile!
Almost always: it's usually easy for me to stay unattached to girls that other guys are fawning over because I can remind myself they're not that special, just pretty and/or manipulative. But every couple of years I meet a girl I just go crazy over because she has the kind of personality I'm looking for. It's painful even when it works out ok, but I'm afraid that if I don't let that happen once in a while I would miss out on love entirely.