Now in my early 30's I find that my girlfriends and I who are single, independent, make good money, have no kids struggle to find men. Meanwhile my girlfriends who don't have any consistency with their jobs, have children from prior relationships sometimes multiple baby daddies, seem to always be able to get into a relationship? Don't say it's just me. Me and some of my girlfriends are always talking about this so I know it's common. Guys, whats the deal?
Most Helpful Guy
Men have no reason to stay attached to you. I know I'm young and probably have no reason to chime in on this but my dad married my mom and adopted my brother when he was five and I've talked to him about it. He really liked my mom but my brother really pushed him to stay. My dad's parents divorced when he was 12 and my grandad died when he was 18 so when he met my brother the thought of being a father to this kid kind of encouraged him to be a little less self concerned and stick around just a little longer and that little push was enough to get him hooked. My ex's step dads (yes that's an s) were kind of similar. The single girl is just out on her own living life the single mom is juggling work and raising a child so a lot of men see that and it softens them up just enough to get them attached. With the single girl it's all about what in it for me. Is this the right girl for me? And it's justifiable. You two are just humans trying to find a good thing. But the mom introduces a new vulnerable third life. And a lot of guys (those who don't run at first site) will get pulled in by that just long enough to let a relationship build.2
Most Helpful Girl
Child care is something guys look for in a mate.
The guys usually have kids too and are looking for someone to take care of them for him. They probably think a mom is more likely to just accept more kids so he can go out & do his thing than a woman with no kids.