About a month ago I started dating this guy. We’ve been friends for about a year. When he asked me out he told me we couldn’t tell anyone. Why doesn’t he want anyone to know? Is he like ashamed of me or something?
Because he's dating someone else. If people know that you two are dating, they'll speak and word will go around, probably to his side (or main) woman. For real, tell people. See what happens and mark my words
Perhaps you are a booty call. And he has a girlfriend you don't know about and he doesn't want her to know. Also possibly while he likes fucking you, your not the type of girl he wants other people to know he's messing with.
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It could very well be, @fallen_angel666 He is Not Ready nor Raring to have to Expalin You and Him... Not just yet anyways. You say you both have 'Been friends for a year,' dear. Continue your Dating Process now, Nursing and Nurturing Something More Special and who Knows... It may be sooner than you think that He will be Showing you all around Town, Introducing you as "My Girl." I believe for now, he wants to be sure that the Newbie 'Dating this guy" Stays Steady and doesn't Fizzle the Sizzle out where he Ends up Embarrassed by having told Everyone... He Knows. No, I don't believe this about being 'Ashamed of me or something,' He just wants to be Cautious for now and to be sure of this New You. Good luck. xx
This is a BIG red flag. He's likely ashamed to be with you or maybe he's dating another girl and doesn't want either of you to find out. You should ask him exactly why and if not, end it with him. You should find a guy who wants to tell the world he's with you.
It might not be because he's ashamed. He could be shy. Either way I don't like it. If he likes you he should be able to let people know. Unless you guys are dating and he's waiting to see if it turns into an actual relationship before making it public that's different.
The harsh reality no one wants to face. the Only way to come as close as possible to what someone might be feeling or to know the meaning of what they are trying to tell you is, to imagine yourself if&when you ever had to say that to someone. your reason is most likely their reason. BUT there are 1,000s of reasons.