It sucks, it's the worst situation I've been in my life, choosing between my parents and him. My parents are really great, I have a very good relationship with them, though they can be over protective and don't give me the intimacy I need sometimes. I am 18 years old, by the way. And my boyfriend, well, he's my first one and I have always liked him and finally now he confessed his feelings for me and it was awesome until now. My mom has doubts about him, really wants me to stay away from him, because of his race! Indeed, he is not perfect, nobody is, he did some jerky things in the past, but race is not a good reason and I honestly don't care about it! She says that I lowered my standards, that I can't think clear because I'm in love, and that I should have morals and stuff like this! It hurts me because I want to live my life, I want to experience, I want to love! She really hurts me when she talks like this. And he's all I wanted and now when we can be together, this happens. One detail, she found those informations on my facebook, she has my password and she logged in. That's what I meant by wanting space.
He may not be the best for me but we've always had a connection, something special. I know what I am doing and I really like him! I don't want this to end! But it's tough to confront my parents.
What should I do? Thank you!
Most Helpful Guy
Your parents love you and want the best for you however.. i do agree that they need to be supportive and not critical of you. This relationship will run it's course, you will learn from it, enjoy it and then who knows.
But that's something you need to experience. When it's time, you will know... meanwhile.. unless he's something detrimental to your progress, goals and ambitions in life... they should support you!
What should you do, i'd keep gathering information in terms of how you feel, what you'd like to see and how it'd be best for them to help you.
"but honey, he's not good for you."
- mom, think back to your past relationships, the bad boys you chased and got your heart broken.. It was fun right? And it was also exhausting... but those are experiences i may or may not go through but their are paths in life that cannot but taught except through experiences.
Unless i start doing drugs, getting abused or if he's actively cheating on me, this is my relationship, my experiences, my own lessons and i would love for your support as i know it's hard for you to watch your daughter potentially getting hurt and your protective instinct kick in."0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm actually in the same situation but mines a tad bit different my boyfriend is long distance!! So yeah I understand but you're an adult go wit your heart trust your gut listen to your parents and keep what they say in mind but don't live your life through their standards , this guy could be your soulmate for all you know... Prove to your parents that he treats you good and makes you happy not through your words but your actions.. don't give up on him but don't throw in the towel with your parents either0