I got in a relationship recently and two weeks later, I left him for a variety of reasons, but I just wasn't feeling it.
I've been seeing another guy recently and it's been going okay, though there's a lot of negatives that come with him, that I won't go into because people would be like "run for the hills" but there's something about him that attracts me to him, besides his mother threatening to beat me up the other day, we have fun together.
But now I'm thinking of withdrawing again and I have done so today (barely replying to him). I've been thinking a lot about him and instead of weighing pros and cons, I just give up. Especially as more of my family and friends know about him, I guess it pressures me to make a final decision. I don't know. Plus, I know if I turn him down, he'll get really upset and will work hard to get me back (he already did that once last year) and then I'd feel super bad.
I'm on antidepressants too which I feel has affected my ability to fall in love and it has been studied that they can have that affect.
tl;dr: I keep withdrawing from guys and I'm not sure why.
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's important to say, that you don't necessarily need to be with anybody. I've been single for a long time, and it's fine. Not that I don't get lonely, haha, but I see it's what I need right now. To focus on myself.
As for these guys, it's really hard to say without knowing you and understanding your thought processes. Maybe you're trying to rationalise things too much. If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Doesn't mean that you won't feel it for some guy, months, years down the line. For me, the sense of quality is important. Meaning, I can have a lot of things going on, and just half heartedly put my attention in all of them. Or, if I go into a relationship say, I can be sure that I really like her enough in some form to make it joyous. To give an example, I'm totally the opposite of someone who would sleep around or is just focused on sex; however I would even consider a sex based relationship, if, as I say, I liked her on some higher level and I could give her some proper attention. That's just me, anyway.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think you simply get into relationships without actually caring enough for the person you are with
My advice... dont get into relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship
Wait to fall in love... have that "this is it" feeling and only then enter a relationship
If not, u will be changing boyfriends like a techy changes iphone versions...1