Hey guys so for a while I've been noticing guys only trying to get me to hook up with them, but not take me on a date. If I meet a cute guy and he seems interested back by asking for my number and such implying he wants to take me out, only days later texting me later at night asking me to get drinks with them or to come over and "cuddle". I'm just so sick of this, why a guy doesn't want to take me out to somewhere nice and put effort in it. It seems easy for me when there's always a guy asking to hang out, but none of them asking me out on a formal date it seems to get to know me. I want to be thought of as a potential girlfriend, not a piece of meat. What am I doing wrong?
I don't think there's automatically anything devious about getting drinks. That's just how some people like to hang out with someone. But yeah I like to go on an actual old fashioned date for the first few times spending time together before I like to do more casual hang outs.
My question is where are you meeting most of these guys that just try to get in your pants?
it may be our eroding environment... the more people do this the less people want to put any investment in.
Could be where you are finding them. Online: put a notice there that states what you expect. You can always counter the guys offer and say... no... I want someone to get to know me... lets go dutch for dinner... etc.. at least you get a date?
Men have needs, they have wishes to fullfill their sexual desire, by having sex with more than one girl in order to tell their friends and to increase their self esteem against them. It's battle between men, to show off who is better, who had more sexual partners with girls and stuff like that. To find the better one, it's not that easier... it just needs time and he will be in front of you unexpectedly.
your doing nothing wrong, those guys must be an ass, dont worry just give it some time and you'll find a better guy, and maybe its a sign that your not ready for a relationship and your better being single and you shoudl enjoy your single life