I'm 20 years old and my dad puts his foot down on me dating a 36 year old man. I know that it is a 16 age difference. But what is the big deal we're both adults it is not like just because you date someone doesn't mean that you will marry or have kids with them. Why do they trip so much?
Because your dad was once a horny young man and he knows how men think. It's hypocritical, but he wants to protect you from men like he used to be. A 36 year old dude (My age) who wants an immature (no offense) girl who's 20 years old and has no idea what she really wants out of life yet (no offense, again) is really only looking for sex, UNLESS he is so emotionally immature he relates to that age group.
So no, I wouldn't want my daughter dating this guy. If you had a son you would be just as protective of him, too.
They don't want you to be hurt. If your dad is picky about who you date, that usually means they care. It may be annoying and I agree that they should back off since you're an adult, but they just don't want to see you get hurt by any man. Personally, I wouldn't want my daughters if I had any dating anyone more than five years older than them because I'd see it as they want a young trophy girlfriend and don't really care much about them, but I can't make their decision for them and they need to experience these sorts of things by themselves.
Uh, probably because your dad KNOWS what that guy is thinking!!! No Father wants to know his daughter is doing things that he did with other Father's Daughters!!! 16 years is a GENERATION!! Of course he is going to be concerned!! Adding the 'doesn't mean that you will marry or have kids with them,' doesn't help a Father's perspective, AT ALL!! He hears: "Daddy, I'm going to fool around with this guy that is a lot older, and he will take advantage of me, but we aren't getting married, or having kids, so it is just raw sex, and for fun!" You need to remember that he sees you as that little girl, innocent, and just beaming, not as a sexual young woman!!
Thats kind of the point. You want the best for your children, you don't want them to be in a relationship that goes no where, where the guy has no real interest beyond sex. You want the absolute best for them and nothing else so thats why he repsoneded the way he did.
Because as fathers we never ever want our daughters to have sex. We also know that guys are pigs and what we think. Esp regarding young women. Since the only reason a 36 yr old would date a 20 yr old is for sex. So of course he doesn't want you to date him. the best formula to figure out the minimum age to date is Half your age plus 7
Probably because guys knkw how guys are, we are guys, we grew up with guys similar and different to ourselves, and we know which are the shitty ones. Sometimes with o ly one look we can gauge another guys intention about life and how he is going to treat other people including girls. I have never dated, and not a father but I could see myself looking at a kid and wanting him not to be involved with anyone I know
How old is your father? I mean, is this guy closer to his age or yours? Fathers tend to get a bit creeped out about stuff like that., My daughter dated a nice guy for a while who was exactly the same age difference between me and my daughter. I felt uneasy about it for about 5 minutes, but she had already been sexually active and was using protection, so I didn't see any point in worrying about it. Besides her husband, he treated her the best of all her lovers.
Your dad isn't stupid. None of the possible outcomes is good from his point of view. Either you're taking this thing seriously which is kinda weird and will result in problems later or its just about sex and attention, why would your dad be happy about either of those?
Because as a dad you know what guys are like and you do everything you can to protect your daughter from that. And to be honest your dad is right to not agree with you being with that guy. He is literally twice your age
What @thetundrawolf said. Plus, he was probably learning how to drive when you were born. That and DWR (Danger Will Robinson... Her dad will kill you if / when he finds out). Which is pretty much the case since your dad put his foot down.
... because they're protective and dont want their daughter winding up with some loser who could hurt her? i dont blame him either, that age gap is huge. be careful because his intentions may be messed up. i mean it could workout but just be careful and take it slow.
He doesn't want to see you get hurt. And honestly? At your age, that big of an age gap... he's got good reason to be wary. If a guy who is closer to 40 than 30 is dating a girl who's barely in her 20s, it's rarely because he is just sooo taken by her personality... dude isn't dating you for your brain or personality, darling. Your dad knows that.
He just wants to protect you. You're still only 20. Don't listen to most of the guys on here, I have dated older men on and off but you're 20 he just wants to protect you and he wants to know nobody is going to hurt his baby. My dad doesn't give a shit about who I date which doesn't cramp my style but it is nice to know he cares about you.
You shouldn't date someone without the intent of marrying them. Yout dad is knows what's best for you. If he disapproves of this then he is saying something because he knows how some men are. He is just looking out for you.
That is a pretty big age gap. How old is your dad? Probably closer to that guys age. I think some fathers realize there are guys out there that are like they were before they had a daughter lol. Maybe a little bit crazy or promiscuous with certain intentions and they don't want you to get hurt.