I have been in 2 relationships and both of them never worked out I am starting to lose my confidence in my self. I am happy with who I am and i know i don't need a guy to make me happy but I want a family and to settle down why does this feel impossible? How can I meet someone?
Most Helpful Guy
women feel pressures like that. 2 relationships really isn't that bad... in this environment.
need more details why they didn't work. The attraction is happening sub conscious so are you picking wrong guys or just not working out. dating is about learning about you and what you need, no so much getting what you want... although I realize you do want something.
maybe we need a way on GAG to order a guy... describe your specifications:) you could just marry me, ... oops I'm of ripe age... but wait people like vintage cars with class, older houses with character, and old trees?
I've known very attractive girls who never found someone for life... they married, divorced, or dated around. I can tell you the wounds from early life and relationships can really screw you, so if there are any bad remanants from life influencing you, then get counseling and clean that stuff up. Either way, I'd get a coach/counselor on your side so you can work through and discard guys fast... unless you have some really skilled GF's.
Lastly go to church? online date? join match making service? be social. Read the book Mars and Venus on a date. Do all of the above and keep your options open to find a decent guy that will commit. I believe there are maybe a few of them on this site so they exist. But the issue may be who you are choosing... see my point?
Lastly... if you are worried... don't project that to people. Be confident in who you are... you are enjoying your life and you want someone to go along on the ride. Getting needy will poison a good guy.
Most Helpful Girl
You will have to change your life.
put the rest of your life under control, as much as you can. That will make you feel less hopeless and helpless. If you get what you want in other areas of life, you will feel more confident you can do it in your love life as well.
Focus on doing more things you love and enjoy. If you are unhappy in your job, look for one that will make you feel better. If you want to lose some extra weight. Go ahead, make a plan and lose it.
If you are passionate about any sports/art/craft/music/hobby do it. Take classes, enjoy your time, enjoy your life and make your single days count.
The more you feel you are in control of your life the happier you feel, the better you look, the more you smile, the more fun you have.
More moments of genuine bliss. Less time to pity yourself for being single. And you’re not putting your life on hold while he or she arrives.
As you do that, you’ll start attracting a much more interesting bunch of people in your life. And yes, that includes potential partners too. People get drawn to your energy, liveliness, your confidence, your spark.
When you feel you are in the right place, and you believe love can happen for you: the right partner will come, without a doubt.
Wishing you the best of luck.0